Dec 26, 2017 Relationships

Don't Get Engaged Until You've Had These 5 Talks With Your Partner

by Kelsey Clark
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Original Illustration by Stephanie DeAngelis

People endlessly evolve throughout their lives—both as singletons and while in a relationship. But when it comes to deciding to spend the rest of your life with one other person, a few topics warrant a serious discussion (and a plan of action). As Tina B. Tessina, PhD, psychotherapist, and author of How to Be Happy Partners, tells Health, "Hashing out money, career, and other important issues before you put a ring on it can strengthen your bond and give you the confidence that you're a well-matched couple."

Below, find the five important conversations Tessina believes you should have with your significant other before saying "I do":

  • Whether or not you want to have kids: "If the answer is yes, then there are many other questions to solve."
  • How you plan to handle finances: "Just like a business, a marriage takes in income, pays expenses, and is supposed to have a little profit (think savings and equity) left over."
  • Where each of you sees your career evolving: Doing so will "lay the groundwork for handling actual events and decisions in the future."
  • How involved your parents will be in your life: "Where will you two spend holidays? If there are family members who have problems, such as financial stress, addiction, or mental illness, how much will that impact your relationship?"
  • What role faith will play in your relationship and family: "New couples must learn to accept and appreciate each other's holiday celebrations and traditions."

Head over to Health for more, and next, read up on the 10 burning relationship questions everyone has, according to Google.