The Bad Behavior That Could Kill Your Friendships
These days, when you ask someone how they are, the reply is no longer the polite “I’m fine, thank you, and how are you?” It’s the manic “Sooo busy!” We are in an age where the 9-to-5 workday is obsolete. If you’re not logged on after dinner or at least socializing and publishing your curated life on Instagram, you’re not “succeeding” in the eyes of modern society. While this turbo-charged way of life fosters an incredible environment of innovation and productivity, some things, like friendship etiquette, have fallen to the wayside.
One lost art that we’ve been mourning is that of the répondez-vous s’il vous plaît, also known as the RSVP. When invites begin as Paperless Post, transpire into long email threads, and eventually wither into disjointed group texts, the final numbers for your guest count are always up in the air. And for some things, like a housewarming party, that’s fine. Other times, like when you’re hosting a sit-down dinner or arranging for a special event with a set number of tickets like a baseball game or concert, timely and consistent RSVPs are necessary. In order to help you master the intricacies of friendship and always respect your hosts, we’ve identified a few guidelines for every situation that everyone should follow.
If you RSVP “yes” for an event on Paperless Post and the likelihood of you actually attending that event is less than 95%, please let your host know. It’s totally appropriate to call, email, or even text sending your apologies or particular situation. But an “attending” guest with no follow-up could leave the host being charged extra for the inaccurate headcount.
There really isn’t a circumstance, unless you’re in the emergency room or a family crisis has occurred, for you to no-show and not mention your lack of attendance to your host and, presumably, close friend. Hosting is a big effort. It’s beyond rewarding when you throw a successful bash and can tell that your guests enjoyed themselves. That said, it hurts when your friends fail to acknowledge the effort you put in. Make sure you express sincere apologies if you have to give a day a “no.”
If you RSVP “yes” for an event and can’t make it to something a few days ahead, we get it—life happens. But make sure to call your host. If you can’t get a hold of them, make sure to leave a voicemail and a text. It’s important that you relay your apologies and wish the host a fabulous party. Sending flowers, a note, or even a text the day of so that person knows you’re thinking of them is always an extra-thoughtful touch.
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