The Worst Wedding Planning Advice I Ever Received
Planning a wedding is an exciting and occasionally stressful time. Though your main priorities should be the union of you and your partner and the start of your new life together, everyone seems to have an opinion on what you should do, how much you should spend, and what your big day should look like. Given that I’m smack-dab in the middle of planning my own wedding this fall—and receiving tons of advice, both unsolicited and actually requested—I thought it would be interesting to ask around to see what less-than-stellar advice is being thrown around out there in the wedding world. Keep scrolling to see what a sample of real brides and brides-to-be had to say!
“Leaving for your honeymoon first thing the morning after the wedding. One of my old co-workers told me that was the way to do it. Bad advice. Wait a day in between to relax and enjoy.” — Sam K.
“Some people told me that the money spent on the wedding would be better used toward a down payment on a house. Even if they were joking, I don’t want to hear it! This is a special once-in-a-lifetime event that I’ve been dreaming of my whole life, and I want to enjoy it!” — Caitlin C.
“When it comes to the budget, everyone seems to have an opinion. When I was nicely told never to spend over a specific figure on the wedding, I had to sigh. That number wouldn’t have covered the cost of our caterer, let alone a dress, invitations, photographer, etc. Good thing that person will never know how much planning a wedding in 2015 in Los Angeles will actually cost you!” — Jill H.
“We heard that usually about 20% of invitees aren’t able to make it. Not in our case. Almost everyone is coming—which is great—but is stretching the budget! I’d plan for 100% attendance to ensure you stay within your means.” — Abbey G.
“One thing we knew through the planning process is that we wanted a seamless transition between the cocktail hour and dinner. People suggested we shut down serving drinks so our guests could be seated. We laughed and knew that wouldn’t fly with our guests, so we got creative and planned for a bagpiper to lead everyone into dinner—with their cocktails in hand!” — Caitlin M.
“Honestly, I would get annoyed with people who would say, ‘It’s your day—do what YOU want.’ Once guests are involved and if anyone else other than you as a couple is contributing financially, it’s more than just ‘my’ day. Asking friends and family to give up their time and travel to our wedding meant we wanted to do everything possible to make sure they were going to have a great time.” — Beth L.
“One piece of advice that I constantly heard was to pick a ‘classic’ or an older song for the first dance. Nothing really stood out as something special to both my husband and me as a couple, so we threw that out and picked something newer that we both loved and felt was really about us.” — Kimmy F.
“I’m a bit of a nervous Nellie, so someone suggested I take some Xanax before the ceremony. A prescription pill I’ve never taken and am not prescribed? No, thanks. The last thing I need is to have it react badly with the Champagne I definitely plan on drinking so I end up acting like a crazy person.” — Emily P.
“Everyone would ask me how much weight I was trying to lose or if I was going to go with airbrushed makeup and a spray tan. They told me to go the extra mile and concentrate on my health and beauty regimens. I did do some things to look special, but ultimately I wanted to look like myself and how my husband had known me for years.” — Jackie B.
“At a shower I had, one of my aunts suggested I have generic ‘Thank You’ postcards printed to send to everyone so we didn’t have to worry about writing our own. Sure, it will be a pain, but how impersonal can you get?!” — Jenna K.
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