10 Truths Only a Homebody Understands
It’s not that we’re antisocial; it’s just that sometimes we prefer to sit something out. We’re not mad—or sad, either! But it can be hard to assure your pals that it’s not personal; you just need a night in with your bed, a few candles, and some music. If you’re nodding your head in agreement, read on—you’ll surely recognize these. For all you social butterflies out there, your homebody homeboy or girl will surely appreciate your newfound understanding.
You know full well that you don’t have to be sleeping to enjoy being in bed! Some of my personal favorite moments in mine are when it’s fully made—reading while propped up on pillows, as the daylight streams in through the windows.
You’ve just left work and you need to “stop off at home” to change really quickly before starting your evening. WARNING! DANGER! Every homebody knows that “going home first” is really code for “see you tomorrow.” If you really want to go out, do yourself the favor of either packing a bag, enlisting a friend to come with you, or urging someone to call you in a half-hour to check in. Otherwise, you simply can’t be held responsible…
Seriously—have you tried this combination or something like it? How would you not want to stay in when this is legitimately always an option?! Throw those windows open, baby, and stay awhile.
For the most social of social butterflies, it can seem effortless to flit from gathering to gathering without the faintest hesitation or need for retreat. A homebody, on the other hand, needs time to recharge. Without it, we’re setting ourselves up for a weeklong hibernation.
We get it. Your Pinterest boards need refreshing. Your open tabs of must-read articles are calling your name. The Internet is a magical place where inspiration is born and procrastination dreams come true, and you can’t resist its seductive siren call.
Your friends are all out. They’re texting you to meet up. It’s not that you don’t want to see them, but rather that you don’t know that you want to see everybody else. You’ll probably bop around your apartment for hours doing this or that, checking your phone intermittently, telling your friends to let you know if they “make any moves,” with mostly no intention of meeting up. Been there!
Oh, are they ever. An excuse to stay in, let the gray light wash over your home, drink a cozy cup of tea, and listen to records with the sound of raindrops as a faint backdrop? Yes, please! A rainy night in? Don’t even go there!
Real talk: How many full seasons of television shows have you watched recently? Don’t lie… Hey, it’s the golden age of television. These days, TV is so good there’s no reason to be ashamed about binge-watching the latest episodes of House of Cards or True Detective.
Guys, modern life can be demanding. We’re constantly plugged in and expected to keep at it. Abstaining from a night of socialization is a regenerating luxury. You’d swear that taking it easy on a Friday night allows you to be a way better human being.
We hear so much about the power of “yes.” And it’s true that saying “yes” opens you up to an abundance of possibilities. But saying “no” is powerful too. You know full well the line between when you need to take a pass on an evening out and falling into a bad rut of negativity or passivity. Exercising the power of “no” just means you know what you do and do not want.