6 Confidence Hacks to Learn Today
Many of us could use a little more confidence in our endeavors, be it taking leadership at work, mingling at a cocktail party, playing a game, or approaching a love interest. No matter what the situation is, confidence comes from the same place: our minds. We’ve all heard the expression “fake it till you make it,” and that certainly rings true where confidence is concerned, but there are a few other tactics you can utilize to give yourself more courage and self-assurance. We discovered a Quora question about confidence hacks and culled a few of our favorites for you below. Read on.
As one Quora user, Alex Mombo, put it, “Being great at something gives you swagger, on and off the field.” You might not feel like your most confident self making a presentation in front of your colleagues, but if you play a sport on the weekends that gives you confidence, it can carry over into other facets of your life. “Confidence comes from the inside,” Mombo says. “It’s not about looks; it’s not even about accomplishments; it’s about knowing you’re worth something.”
Devin Welch, another Quora user who admits struggling with self-esteem issues, argues that “confidence is knowledge.” By gaining experience in the things that give you social anxiety, you’ll learn what the likely outcomes are and how others might behave. “The only way to be confident in social situations is to experience them,” Welch says.
As social psychologist Amy Cuddy’s research has revealed, our body language can change not only how others perceive us, but also how we see ourselves. Tricks like keeping your chest out, lifting your head, and pulling your shoulders back can all help to inhibit mental anxiety.
What’s the worst thing that could happen to you when you feel anxious? Failure. Quora user Jim Pugh makes the argument that “confidence is basically understanding that failure is a natural consequence of living for any length of time on this planet.” When you stop seeing failure as a bad thing (or a good thing) and think of it as inevitable—as “a universal experience”—you can change your feelings about your own behavior.
Before an experience where you want to feel confident, Quora user Ashisa Gaikwad recommends engaging in a little exercise, such as burpees or push-ups. “It’s a very simple thing which warms your body and helps your brain to focus,” he says.
People who are confident don’t shy away or look at the floor while they’re talking. Even if you don’t feel like your best self, “make eye contact while you are talking,” Quora user Siva Kumar recommends. The simple practice will get your mind in the game, so to speak, and signal to others that you’re no wallflower.
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