How to Build Successful Relationships in Every Area of Your Life
Jessie Bush for We the People
What makes a relationship stick? What makes it tick?
For his book The Relationship Cure, psychologist and marriage expert John Gottman parsed 40 years worth of research into what makes for a healthy relationship. Perhaps unsurprisingly, he found that the same elements that create a strong bond romantically also make for strong, highly functional bonds in other areas of life where interpersonal relationships are at play (think: family dynamics and the workplace). Take, for example, the relationship you have with your best friend, your sibling, or even your boss. Across the board, Gottman found that the most positive relationships were all founded on three tenets. He shared his intuitive findings with Business Insider.
We all know that investing the time it takes to get to know the other person is a building block of any relationship. The same should go for a professional connection! Knowing that the people you spend a lot of time with, even in a professional environment, care about and are interested in you and your life enriches the relationship immensely. So, show interest! You may just find yourself enjoying the work day more because of it.
Communication is key to every healthy relationship, that's no secret. In particular, expressing gratitude and authentic appreciation has a transformative sort of power to bring those warm fuzzy feelings you feel for those in your life to the forefront. Don't be shy; everyone appreciates a little nod of appreciation and acknowledgment now and again.
Find the Time
You don't necessarily need to initiate a date night ritual with your co-worker, but you'd do well to transfer the regularity of them to your office relationships. Whether that comes in the form of taking a daily morning coffee walk or weekly lunch, carving out the time to regularly check in establishes a mutual commitment to staying connected.
Tell us: How do you maintain healthy relationships in and out of the office?