How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (and Start Empowering Yourself)
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While comparison is undoubtedly the thief of all joy, Instagram and social media in general practically taunt us into the "grass is always greener" mentality. Thumbing through a seemingly endless scroll of picture-perfect moments can bring even the most confident among us down with a case of FOMO; we're only human, after all.
Anyone who's ever fallen down the comparison rabbit hole can speak to its fruitlessness. But you can turn this experience into an exercise in gratitude, inspiration, and uniqueness with the right approach. Jacki Carr, co-founder of Rock Your Bliss, a yoga-inspired coaching movement, always focuses on her core values when she's in a comparison rut.
"Know what is most important to you and create thoughts, action, and goals from this rooted truth," she says of stopping the comparison game in its tracks. "Creating clarity in what you actually want to be doing will alleviate the mental drama that occurs when we see what the proverbial Joneses are doing and asking how to keep up." In other words, do you.
Carr also recommends expressing gratitude for your life and operating from a place of abundance rather than scarcity. "When we operate from scarcity—this conversation in our heads about what 'they' have and what we don't have—it takes up space and time in our brain that we could be using and spending on way better ideas," she explains on MindBodyGreen. Instead, believe that there's more than enough good to go around, and focus on the many positives in your life: your friends and family, your job, even the iPhone you're scrolling on.
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