Jessica Alba's Honest Take on Motherhood: "It's Not About Being Perfect"
From the outside looking in, Jessica Alba has a charmed life: two precious children (and a third one on the way), an adoring husband, and a wildly successful career through which she’s learned to juggle a thriving acting career and a budding business. Her latest venture through The Honest Company is a limited-edition line of whimsical and autumnal diaper prints in collaboration with her own personal stylists, Emily Current and Meritt Elliott of The Great. Together the three moms were excited to create a unique nontoxic product for moms, by moms. “I was so excited to partner with a brand founded by fellow female entrepreneurs to bring this collection to life. They have impeccable taste, and I knew that their classic style would be perfect for our newest fall collection,” Alba told MyDomaine.
How do these women manage to balance motherhood with their soaring careers? We chatted with Alba and her stylists on what it’s like to be a working mom—how to get enough sleep, how to find balance, and the surprising things that no one ever tells you about being a mom. While it may not be possible to have it all, it seems feasible to achieve a sense of priorities and perspectives that makes balancing motherhood and career that much easier. Curious how these fierce entrepreneurs do it all? Learn from their own ups and downs.
Prioritize What's Important
MYDOMAINE: Do you believe in balance?
JESSICA ALBA: To me, it’s more about prioritizing what’s important in the moment than having a perfect balance of anything. Naturally, you’re going to have to compromise on one thing to achieve another, and it’s important to be comfortable with that. To me, it’s not about being perfect, but it’s about doing your best.
EMILY CURRENT: Balance is everything—from physical balance to creative and emotional balance. As businesswomen and mothers, we are always working toward finding ways to laugh during long work days, exercise while on business trips, and spend time being restful and open to creative inspiration. One day, we’ll nail it.
Keep Things in Perspective
MD: Returning to work after having a baby can be daunting for many women. What advice do you have for new moms who are feeling nervous about balancing both?
JA: I would say to always keep things in perspective, and always remember what matters to you most—don’t worry about being everything to everyone. The time that you have is more about quality over quantity. When you’re at work, try to get as much done as you can, but when you’re at home, it’s important to be fully present with your family. Making the most of the time that you do have and prioritizing what’s important will help. Remember, perfection simply doesn’t exist, so don’t be too hard on yourself.
MERITT ELLIOTT: Trust that we are innately skilled at prioritizing, managing time, and multitasking. And while this balance is never easy, know that we are setting great examples of being strong, smart, and well-rounded women to our children.
Sleep Whenever You Can
MD: Sleep is so important, but many working moms don’t get enough of it. What are your tips for getting more z’s?
JA: When it’s time for bed, try to wind down by staying away from your devices. I find that reading before bed works well for me, so I love to curl up with a good book. I’m also a firm believer in power naps—napping when you can helps when you aren’t able to get a long stretch of sleep through the night.
EC: Don’t check emails right before bed, invest in good sleepytime teas, perfectly soft pillows, and a sound machine.
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Learn From Your Children
MD: What is the most surprising thing about being a mom that no one ever tells you?
JA: Being a mom is a never-ending job, and you never stop worrying. Once you’re a mom, you never stop thinking about your kids.
ME: That you often feel like a kid yourself—and that many times you may learn more from your child than they learn from you.
Always Be Present
MD: What is the biggest lesson your children have taught you about work and life?
JA: Be present. When you’re at the office, focus on work, and when you’re at home, focus on spending quality time with your family. We’ve all heard this one before, but don’t sweat the small stuff—it’s sound advice.
ME: Some of the simplest things in life can be the most beautiful. Being in the moment makes experiences tremendously more meaningful. Having fun is a cure-all for everything.
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