The Pros and Cons of Postponing Your Honeymoon
These days, weddings are far more exciting—and, thankfully, far less stuffy—for all involved. There are bridesmaids who sing five-minute wedding toasts for their sisters and couples who shoot music videos with their wedding guests. It’s safe to say that the traditional wedding ceremony at the church with the white dress is no longer. While eschewing what’s always been done may cause some complaints from Grandma, being able to tailor your wedding to your priorities and tastes makes planning (and attending) the soirée all the more fun.
One tradition in particular that’s getting upended is the honeymoon. More and more couples are delaying their honeymoon (or going on a mini-moon) instead of jet-setting right after the last piece of confetti has settled. Budget constraints or lack of accrued vacation days are causing many a couple to delay their post-marriage vacation for weeks or even months. But before you decide to postpone this magical trip for two, we have to ask: Does this growing trend have a lasting impact on the marriage? Here's what the experts have to say about putting off your honeymoon—and how it can affect your relationship—for better or for worse.
Not having to hop on a plane hours after your last dance means couples can truly enjoy the festivities of their weddings—dancing, drinks, and so on—with the people who traveled to celebrate with them, says Samantha Crotty, national social media manager for Perfect Wedding Guide. You can truly participate in your after-party celebrations and elongate what is likely the most expensive event you’ve ever thrown, and you’ll get to nurse your next-day hangover with your friends and family who are still in town.
If you’ve always pictured doing a grand exit at the end of the night, during which you hop into a getaway car bound for the airport, postponing your honeymoon puts the kibosh on that fantasy. (Unless, of course, you opt for a mini-moon.) Plus, for couples who’d prefer to have alone time after their big day, postponing the honeymoon might not be ideal.
Planning a wedding can make you anxious enough, but planning a honeymoon on top of it can push a couple to its limits. So, waiting to plan the trip of a lifetime may be the right move if your dream celebration involves a ton of guests or multiple soirées. For instance, a couple that celebrity wedding planner Andrea Freeman is working with is planning both a wedding in the States and another one in India—so a honeymoon isn’t on their radar yet. “As you can imagine, planning two weddings is a huge undertaking—very time-consuming—so this couple wants a break from all things wedding and will travel at another time,” she says.
Cue the sad trombones. There are few things more depressing than heading to work a day or two after you tie the knot… though you will have the best “what I did over the weekend” story to share at the morning meeting.
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Taking time to save and plan an incredible honeymoon—without having to sacrifice on destination and how long you’ll travel for—is a total upside to waiting, Freeman and Crotty say. Weddings are expensive, and if you’re footing the bill, it may be worth recovering financially a bit before you shell out more cash for a major trip.
For many couples, this is a pretty big, and very legitimate, concern. “Depending on how long you wait, the excitement that comes with being newly married may wear off, and your honeymoon could turn into ‘just another vacation,’” Crotty says.
If you want to travel right after your big day, you’ll need to choose a destination that suits the time of year in which you’re getting married. For instance, you won’t want to travel to Europe in the peak summer season (unless you want to fight crowds), and you won’t want to hit up Tahiti in December when it’s super humid. By postponing, you have your pick as far as timing and destination go for the location of your dreams.
“Postponing without having a trip booked for the future could turn into a honeymoon that never gets taken,” Crotty says. Some couples end up waiting as many as a few years before even starting to plan a trip, which can become into a reoccurring source of stress.
For many couples, coming down from that wedding high can be a little depressing. You’ve just planned this amazing event for everyone you know and love for months (maybe even years!), and now it’s all over. But having a trip to think about can be a huge boost as you start your married life together, giving you something to focus on and get excited about after you’ve tied the knot.
So, do you think you'll be postponing your honeymoon until the time is right or will you jump to it?