The Dos and Don'ts of Traveling as a Couple
Your bags are packed. Your boarding passes are printed. The two of you are ready to hit the road. Or are you? Traveling can bring out the best and the worst in anyone because the amazing views and great food are often accompanied by delayed flights, culture shock, and language barriers. So while you might be smitten before you leave, we strongly suggest you read these dos and don’ts of traveling as a couple before jetting off with your sweetheart.
We know it’s the foundation of any lasting relationship. But it is perhaps never as important as when you are traveling. You want to volunteer in an orphanage. He wants to go shark diving. Well, guess what? You should probably do them both. ’Cause there is no point in flying thousands of miles and not doing everything that interests you—and that means both of you. Isn’t the whole spirit of travel based on stepping out of your routine and experiencing the unknown? Be just as open with your interests, and you may stumble upon some things you never knew you liked!
Okay, I know this is a hard one. Sometimes that hike he wanted to do was way harder than you anticipated. Or that amazing show you wanted to see turned out to be horrible. But neither of you would ever have known before you tried. Complaining about something not going as planned not only spoils the tone of the trip but also makes whoever came up with the idea feel at fault for the disappointment. Skip the complaints and laugh it off. Looking on the bright side of each experience will keep you on each other’s good side.
One of the most amazing things about traveling is the people you meet along the way. Fellow wanderers with a shared sense of adventure, the strangers you choose to befriend will often shape your trip even more than the places you go. But the fact is, you are less approachable as a couple. Single folks effortlessly slip into conversation at the hostel bar over a few cold ones, but as a couple, you’ll have to try a little harder. So put yourself out there! Make the effort to introduce yourself. Your openness will be rewarded.
Constantly communicate with one another. Be completely open and entirely honest. I understand that “be honest” and “don’t complain” could feel contradictory at times. But there are ways to be candid, even about things you don’t like, that are constructive rather than negative. Make it a point to check in with each other often about how you are feeling. Don’t hesitate to tell your partner when something isn’t working for you. Foster an environment where there is nothing you can’t share with one another, and the two of you will thrive in any situation.
Even the happiest couples need a little time apart every now and then. Traveling can be stressful. Compounded with spending 24 hours a day together, it can be downright harrowing. Dedicate a little time each day (or week) to solo activities. Something as simple as reading a chapter of your favorite book while your S.O. goes for a swim could rejuvenate both of you and make your time together that much more special.
When you are spending every day together and have a long list of exciting activities to do, it’s easy to forget about the romance. Running from sight to sight might be fun and exhilarating, but make sure not to neglect one another amid all the chaos of traveling. Go out for a candlelit dinner. Have a picnic in the park. Deny the urge to fill every hour with “must-do” activities, and take the time to connect with one another as well.
Sometimes, one of you is just going to have a bad day. Or get food poisoning. Or miss home. The great thing about traveling as a couple is that you don’t have to suffer through these afflictions alone. Be the voice of encouragement if your partner is down. The medicine-fetcher should the other fall sick. The shoulder to lean on when the mood to sightsee fades. It may feel like a bummer when time is at a premium, but the support you show to one another when you’re far away from home will bring you closer. And that bond is worth far more than whatever you might miss out on that day.
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