5 Things I Learned About My Fiancé While Registering
So far, registering for gifts has been one of the more fun aspects of planning a wedding. Armed with some research on items to ask for and an understanding of what we were lacking and needed, my fiancé and I set out to compile a list of kitchen tools, entertaining essentials, and gadgets that we would need for our new life together. But the outings turned out to be about more than just place settings and barware. Registering was an exciting and eye-opening experience, where I learned interesting tidbits about my betrothed that I never even realized I didn’t know. From his personal entertaining style to the hobbies he wants to pursue, check out what I discovered below.
On our first wedding registry outing, I got a thorough tutorial from the store’s staff member on using their scanner, what to register for, and suggested quantities. While I was getting an education, he was off scoping out our options and making decisions. He showed me what he picked out and, to my surprise, everything was slick, streamlined, and minimal—very different than anything we currently have. There was no way I could live with some of the things he’d chosen so we compromised, but good to know that this traditionalist (a.k.a. me) and my modern fiancé could find a happy medium.
Sure, I knew he liked wine—it inspired the Santa Barbara location of our wedding—but apparently his appreciation goes beyond the silly game we play where we try to guess all the flavors and aromas in every glass (“I’m getting notes of blueberry, blackberry, and... campfire smoke?”). When I mentioned wanting to register for a particular style of wine glass, he was more inclined to go for specifics. The Bordeaux glass, the pinot noir glass, the chardonnay glass. Where he thought we would store all of this glassware, I do not know, but it was nice to think the lifelong and sophisticated hobby of wine tasting and collecting is in our future. Score!
Sure, our nightly conversations tend to go a little but like this: “What do you want for dinner?” “I don’t care… whatever you feel like.” “Yeah, I don’t care either. I could do anything.” But when it comes to place settings, linens, kitchen tools, and glassware, the man knows what he wants. If he hadn’t already scoped things out to decide what he liked, when I presented a few options, it took no time at all for him to make a decision, confirm how many pieces of a particular item we should ask for, and add it to the list. Done and done.
When we wandered into the gadget section, I was excited to finally sign up for those buzzy, talked-about tools that are all the rage right now, like a juicer with all the bells and whistles and a Dyson vacuum that will put our current dust-busting device to shame. Guess who didn’t care about the trendy tools that cost upwards of $500? When I wanted to scan the deluxe one-touch SodaStream (one touch! our current one has me pumping the button for what seems like forever), he brought me back down to Earth. Better to ask for items that will be useful for years than my current obsession of the moment. I’m willing to give up the cake pop maker, but the Dyson? Well, that’s another story.
After selecting items for our kitchen and any entertaining essentials we needed, we decided to take a swing through the furniture section of one of the stores where we registered. Believe it or not, we’d never shopped for furniture together. When we moved in, we both had enough pieces that we only had a few gaps to fill and I naturally took it upon myself to fill them. Now, looking at furniture together I realized how different our home would be if he were the designer. He was digging streamlined, minimal pieces, very midcentury modern, very different than what we have—not as surprising since I’d learned he was a modernist earlier in the day. Yet he’s never mentioned how different our home is from his own style or complained about our more collected, traditional aesthetic. Is he good at compromising or just a guy who knows that our home’s décor is my domain? I’m going to go with the former.
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