What to Know Before You Date an Entrepreneur
Entrepreneurs are obsessed with their companies. They don’t eat, sleep, or exist without having at least one portion of their brain dedicated to their company, so dating and making room for another priority is difficult. This is why you should never enter into a relationship with an entrepreneur without knowing a few things about them. Read on to understand what it really means to share your life with an entrepreneur.
Christina Weber, creator of Underground Unattached, a dating experience that connects ambitious professionals with like-minded peers in the hopes of creating meaningful relationships, believes that entrepreneurs often approach dating like a business. “They make a similar mistake that corporations make: They hire quickly and fire slowly,” meaning that they are quick to make a commitment to a person and slow to let them go if the fit isn’t right. Make sure you’re acutely aware of your needs and your partner’s needs. If they aren’t being met because the relationship isn’t quite right, don’t be afraid to nip it in the bud. You don’t want to stay in a dissatisfying relationship. An entrepreneur spends the majority of his or her time focusing on their business, so it might be easier to stay with Mr. or Mrs. Wrong rather than dedicate precious time to finding Mr. or Mrs. Right. This means you can’t be timid about assessing your relationship because you might be the only person who is willing to do so.
Dating an entrepreneur means you will have a lot of solo time. I date an entrepreneur, and between our two schedules we can go an entire week without sharing any waking moments together—and we live together. Whether your love interest is putting out a fire on a product, running the numbers for his most recent quarter, or networking to try to get more funding, an entrepreneur always has a mile-long to-do list. If you have your own passions, your own drive, and enjoy spending time alone or with friends instead of your romantic partner, then you have a rhythm that works with that of an entrepreneur.
Entrepreneurs love to educate their partners about their business, their discoveries, and how they see the world evolving. If you’re a curious person that loves to learn, dating an entrepreneur should definitely hold your interest. You’ll want to read up on your partner's KPIs (key performance indicators) so that you can understand what pros and cons dictate his mood. For instance, if the cost of customer acquisition doesn’t justify the lifetime value of a customer, your partner won’t be happy. Know what he or she is feeling most vulnerable about so that you can sympathize with your significant other and help discuss possible solutions.
When you date an entrepreneur, you really have to redefine the meaning of dating. It may not be hanging out on a Saturday or watching a movie and having dinner on the regular, but it can mean having an hour or two a week where you actually talk to each other without any digital devices present. Maybe you don’t see each other for a while but then have a meaningful weekend away where you experience something new together. If you both have flexible schedules those weekend getaways could be mid-week getaways. Be prepared to break the mold if you want to date an entrepreneur.
Bottom line: If you’re thinking about dating an entrepreneur, go with your gut. No pro-con list or cash flow projection can tell you if the relationship is worth it. You have to know intuitively if you think it will work and then go for it with all of your heart and soul. In my experience, dating a man who has the confidence, vision, and passion to work on his own companies again and again is well worth dating.
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