Adult Friend Finder was one of the first adult dating sites and remains high on the best-of list because of its numerous interactive features and increasingly large member base, although it loses points for a cluttered database of inactive users and high numbers of seemingly fake profiles. Adult Friend Finder was purchased by Penthouse, and it remains to be seen how or if the site will change with its new ownership.
What Is Friend Finder?
According to the site,
"You can make new friends, find the hottest singles, wildest couples, and sexiest groups. Whether you're straight or gay, looking for sexy women or men, you'll find everything you want on Adult Friend Finder."
Adult Friend Finder offers a matching system for every fantasy, sexual want, and gender you can imagine, including groups, swingers, exhibitionism, cross-dressers, BDSM, and email or phone fantasies.
Paid members have access to user blogs, instant messaging, forums, live cams, email, and magazine articles, whereas trial users can only search the site and participate in some (but not all) of the many chat rooms.
A typical visit to AFF finds most new users overwhelmed by the number of people in their area that are looking for adult fun, but this should be taken with a grain of salt. Unfortunately, AFF does a poor job of purging its databases of old members who have long since abandoned their profiles, and you're likely to encounter more than a few "professionals" on the site. That doesn't mean that the quality of matches is poor overall (especially in the larger metropolitan areas), but users need to be aware that a larger-than-average number of users aren't looking for casual, no-strings sex on AFF, but rather, they are looking for new clients.
Filling out a profile can be daunting. Although the initial sign-up is relatively quick and easy, further review will show that the list of options users can choose from to inform other members of their sexual interests and desires is vast and comprehensive. Every legal sexual act imaginable is listed, along with a ranking mechanism for each as to how interested the user is in that particular subject, along with their experience.
The downsides to Adult Friend Finder are that you can't contact other members or truly search for them unless you pay for a membership, nor can a member with a special membership (see costs below) contact you first. As previously mentioned, a portion of members use AFF as a means to gain new "clients" or haven't used the system in years. Don't expect a swarm of messages upon joining as you might on dating sites with larger user numbers. You may not hear a peep for weeks, or when you do get a message, a response may be delayed.
If this is your experience, try the forums and chat rooms as there's no lack of folks to talk to or meet up with on any given day of the week.
The free chat rooms are usually teeming with people looking to meet up for adult dating, as opposed to many pay-per-use sites where the chat rooms are normally empty. And yes, some of the chat rooms are freely accessible by any member, regardless of their status and payment history.
But where AFF excels is its searching mechanisms. Every combination imaginable is available at Adult Friend Finder: geographic location, gender, sexual orientation, sexual preferences, and what you personally have to offer (i.e., you are a bisexual couple or a heterosexual male).
Adult Friend Finder offers free registration and membership to all of its users, but limits contact (no sending emails or instant messages) and searches (only a certain number of people returned per search, with no options available to edit search terms). Some lucky members whose demographic information is favorable may find themselves with free access to the site, but this is becoming rarer.
For a smaller monthly fee, Silver and Gold members get their profiles moved to the top of the search lists, as well as access to all of the site's services. Gold members have the additional features of added storage space, as well as keyword-based searches for members across the entire network.
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