The One Thing Successful Women Are Doing That You Aren't

It’s an exciting time to be a woman. Female leaders worldwide are standing up and speaking out to help their struggling sisters regain power, to educate and inspire them to achieve personal success and to officially bridge that gender gap. Also, the #MeToo movement shows no signs of slowing down.

But despite these efforts, women are still largely underrepresented in STEM fields, film, politics, and more. In 2019, America ranked 76th in the world for the percentage of women in its national legislature. According to the National Conference of State Legislatures (NCLS), as of July 2019 women held 28.9 percent of state legislative seats.

According to a University of Southern California report, between 2007 and 2014, women made up only 30.2% of all speaking and named characters in the 700 top-grossing fictional films distributed in the United States. A mere 1.9% of all these movies were directed by women. Thankfully, actors like Reese Witherspoon are on a mission to tell more female-driven narratives that are also written and directed by women with her production company, Pacific Standard.

So to continue this progress, we looked to some of our motivational figureheads for some empowering advice that will help summon our inner ambition and move forward into a future where equality reigns.

Reese Witherspoon

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When actress Reese Witherspoon co-founded her production company in 2012, she was shocked by the lack of female leads in Hollywood. Speaking at the 2015 Glamour Women of the Year Awards, Witherspoon addressed the industry’s double standards, the sexist behavior she’s encountered, and why it’s important for women to be ambitious and speak out if they want to see change.

What would happen if we were all brave enough to believe in our own ability, to be a little more ambitious?

"I believe ambition is not a dirty word. It’s believing in yourself and your abilities,” she said. “Imagine this: What would happen if we were all brave enough to believe in our own ability, to be a little more ambitious? I think the world would change."

Misty Copeland

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As the American Ballet Theatre’s first African-American principal dancer in its 75-year history, Misty Copeland is forging a new landscape for minority women. She wrote a memoir, Life in Motion, which is now a New York Times bestseller, and her Under Armour commercial, “I Will What I Want,” went viral. In an interview with The Washington Post, she spoke about the importance of self-belief and forging your own path.

“Belonging shouldn’t mean you are like everyone else. You want to feel accepted, but you don’t have to look like everyone around you, you don’t have to follow the exact same path as someone before you. I think that’s been my experience—that it’s okay to be different, it’s okay to be unique, that you can set your own path,” she said.

Charlize Theron

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Charlize Theron is a modern crusader for equal rights and female empowerment. The Oscar-winning actress is a UN messenger of peace, and in 2007, she founded the Africa Outreach Project to help keep African youth safe from HIV and AIDS, a big part of which is education. Theron joined the first lady, Michelle Obama, on stage at the 2015 Glamour’s “The Power of an Educated Girl” panel to launch the government-wide initiative Let Girls Learn, which supports and encourages education for women worldwide.

She had this to say about smart women: “There is nothing sexier than a smart woman. We have been told to live by a certain mold, especially women, and it’s time to break it, and it’s up to us to do that. Stop waiting for men to do that; look in the mirror and see yourself and say, I am sexy, I am attractive, I am smart, I am intelligent, I am powerful, I have a voice, I look cute in these jeans. Yes, I don’t have long hair, I have short hair, but I am still a girl, and I’m still hot.”

Nicole Kidman

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Considering she’s one of the world’s most successful female actresses, it’s hard to believe Australian Nicole Kidman ever doubted herself. But at the 2015 Women in Film’s Crystal + Lucy Awards dinner, she said that as a teenager, she was a “living metaphor for what had always held women back,” and she spent her entire career rejecting the industry’s expectations to honor her power as a woman.

“I was afraid of my own power, afraid that it would threaten people, intimidate people, and it’s a great sadness wishing to be less than you actually are,” she said. “And it’s hard to take on the world when you’re constantly in a battle with yourself. I worked through it; I’m working through it.”

Bozoma Saint John

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If you’ve been following Bozoma Saint John’s career trajectory and heard her being interviewed, then you’ll know that she is a force of nature. After a successful stint as a marketing executive at Apple Music, she was the chief brand officer at Uber, until recently moving across to Endeavor as the chief marketing officer. 

When she’s not making landmark moves in the boardroom, John is paying it forward and holding the door open for other women and women of color, despite how heavy it might be. For her, the secret to success is being authentic and true to yourself and making some of it up along the way.

As she said at the 2017 ESPN Women + Sports Summit: “Nobody knew what in the hell we were doing. Everybody’s making it up. It’s called innovation: That’s the fancy word for making shit up. Part of innovation is, fake it until you make it. Keep trying things, but it’s not just the random trying. I got receipts. I know what in the hell I really am doing. It was partly taking things that I know, and then applying it to things that I didn’t know, and creating something new, some new magic. And having faith that this new recipe was gonna work. And not being afraid that there were some dips. That you can continue iterating on the idea.”

Cate Blanchett

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Australian actress Cate Blanchett is a formidable force. The epitome of beauty and strength, she is a living example that a woman can be both of these things if she so chooses. This inner power is visually present both on- and off-screen, where she exudes confidence, integrity, and artistic intelligence. But reaching her level of success takes more than talent: It’s about dedication and discipline.

“Someone might have a germ of talent, but 90% of it is discipline and how you practice it, what you do with it,” she told Vanity Fair. “Instinct won’t carry you through the entire journey. It’s what you do in the moments between inspiration.”

Kerry Washington

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Kerry Washington is more than just an actor; she is a vocal advocate for human rights and equality. Speaking at the 2015 GLAAD Awards, the former Scandal star called for minority groups to stand together in the fight.

“I don’t decide to play the characters I play as a political choice,” she said. “Yet the characters I play often do become political statements. Because having your story told as a woman, as a person of color, as a lesbian, as a trans person, or as any member of any disenfranchised community is sadly often still a radical idea. There is so much power in storytelling, and there is enormous power in inclusive storytelling, in inclusive representations.”

Cheryl Strayed

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At just 26, Cheryl Strayed left her familiar surroundings for the wild. In 1995, she strapped on a backpack and set off solo on the 1100-mile Pacific Crest Trail. Later she wrote about the transformative experience in a memoir, Wild, whose 2014 film adaptation, starring Reese Witherspoon, became one of Hollywood’s most feminist films of the year. So far, the film has earned $34 million worldwide, inspiring a new generation of PCT trekkers and positioning Strayed as a feminist icon.

Early on in the book, she refers to the challenges of being a woman and how she hoped to shed those “notions of femininity” on her PCT hike. “I’d been a girl forever, after all, familiar with and reliant upon the powers my very girliness granted me,” she told The Guardian. “Suppressing those powers gave me a gloomy twinge in the gut. It’s a really interesting part of being a woman, especially a young woman, and especially somebody who has been conventionally attractive. I think most young women go through this experience.”

She continued, “I’m just fascinated by the fact that the main power we grant young women in our culture is the power of their beauty and sexual appeal to men. And we also punish them for cashing in on it and admitting to it.”

Victoria Beckham

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Is there anything Victoria Beckham can’t do? She went from Posh the pop star in the Spice Girls to a fashion force to be reckoned with. Her self-titled label has won over the industry elite and just about every celebrity in Hollywood. On top of that, she’s a busy mother of four, wife to retired soccer star David Beckham, and international goodwill ambassador for UNAIDS—that’s some incredible work ethic right there—and now she wants to throw her influence behind female empowerment.

“It started with the Spice Girls and girl power, and I want to send that same message to women through my collections,” she told the 2015 Glamour Women of the Year Awards crowd. “I want to support, empower, and really make women feel like the best versions of themselves.

Sarah Jessica Parker

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Since her role as Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City, Sarah Jessica Parker has redefined what it means to be a modern woman. SATC quickly became the “new voice” for the next generation of women, challenging society’s traditional expectations. This clearly rubbed off in her personal life when she challenged herself to create her own shoe line, SJP Collection. Now the entrepreneur runs a shoe empire.

She told InStyle how she summoned the boss woman within to make it happen: “Do not allow failure to be your undoing. I’m in a position to fail because I have the resources to cushion my failures. But for most people in this country who work incredibly hard, a setback can be catastrophic. Luck and hard work have something to do with success, but it’s often the relationships you cultivate that can help you regroup.

Emily Ratajkowski

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Ever since Emily Ratajkowski starred in the explicit “Blurred Lines” music video, she has had to defend herself. Instead of being privy to the public backlash, she turned it into a platform for speaking her mind about female empowerment and owning her sexuality.

I think you can be a sexual woman, empowered, and a feminist. I think sexuality should be empowering to women; it’s not always misogynistic or exploitative,” she told The Daily Mail.

The Gone Girl star thinks women should have a right to be sexy and be taken seriously. “You get people who are like, ‘If you want to be taken seriously as an actress, don’t post any sexy photos.’ … You can do whatever you want—that’s what being a woman is,” she told Los Angeles Times.

J.K. Rowling

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Despite many setbacks, single mom J.K. Rowling pushed on with her book about a young wizard, determined to see it succeed. She finally sold Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone for a mere $4000, but the fantasy series went on to become an international hit, one of the most popular book and film franchises in history. Rowling never stopped believing in herself, and she says setbacks are what make you stronger.

In her Harvard Alumni Association commencement address, she said, “The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself or the strength of your relationships until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more than any qualification I ever earned.”

Lena Waithe

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As the first Black woman ever to win an Emmy for comedy writing for Master of None, Lena Waithe isn’t one to sit back and rest on her laurels. She has continued that success with her new drama, The Chi which had an overwhelmingly positive response (with season two already confirmed), but she’s all about putting her money where her mouth is. 

As she explained in an interview to Vox:

“I know so many phenomenal writers who happen to be people of color, who happen to be part of the queer community, who happen to be trans. I want to make sure they have an opportunity as well. Because the more stories we have, then we will start getting some Black Call Me By Your Names, we will start getting some Latino versions of Lady Bird. It’s really important that they have a platform. And pretty soon, that list of brown people the industry goes to for everything will get longer, and longer, and longer. The playing field will be leveled, and that’s my mission: to level the playing field.”

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