How to Stop Doubting Yourself Right This Second (And Live Your Best Life)
Self-doubt is a universal human emotion that no person is exempt from. But when this way of thinking becomes second-nature, self-doubt can wreak havoc on your self-esteem and influence how you interact with others. Bustle's Raven Ishak can speak to this experience, having struggled with this way of thinking herself.
"I have this terrible habit of doubting myself," she admits. "I have no idea where it came from or why I even do it, but it's something that I am ultimately not really proud of." Once she realized that this habit was actually affecting her quality of life, she sought to identify mental tips and tricks that could help her navigate her way out of an overthinking episode. Below read up on the three tools that helped Ishak overcome self-doubt in her day-to-day life.
"I am a huge prisoner to overthinking," she writes. "This has a lot to do with making sure I am pleasing others, and it also correlates with self-doubt." When she notices herself falling down a mental rabbit hole, she makes a point to pause and think about where this thought pattern is coming from. "If I start to minimize the problem, I then realize how it's not as big of an issue as I thought it was," she explains.
When you base your self-worth on someone else's opinion, you're essentially looking for validation from circumstances outside of your control rather than finding it within yourself. "I have a hard time with this one as well," writes Ishak. "I want to make sure that I am doing a good job all around, that my work is pleasing everyone, and I think internally that is just not going to happen." While this is a natural worry, it's worth remembering that you can't please everyone. Instead, focus on finding confidence from within.
For those who are predisposed to overthinking, sometimes, all you have to rely on is your gut instinct. "I get frustrated when I have self-doubt, and, in the end, the idea or thought that I originally had is usually the correct one," she explains. Oftentimes, your gut reaction to something, before you overanalyze it in your mind, is a more accurate representation of the situation. Learn to trust your intuition in times of self-doubt and worry and stay there.