Wondering What to Text After a First Date? We Asked the Experts
The text: "Last night was awful. We have nothing in common. Let's do it again."
The reason: "Saying something sarcastic can be a turnoff for some people, but I think it's clever if you were making out and laughing the whole time," says Lewis. "If it was clear it was a great date, saying something funny and ironic will leave the other always wanting more."
The text: "Thanks again for last night—that was fun! Who knew I liked lychee martinis?"
The reason: "Ending with a question is always key to keep the conversation going, even if it doesn't technically need to be answered," suggests Tufvesson. "Try bringing up something from the night before, and end with a question so they have to answer. Get that second date!"
The text: "It was great meeting you! Thanks for last night."
The reason: "Here you're leaving this open-ended," says Lewis. "You're not begging for another date, but you're letting them decide. If they ask you out again, fine. If they don't, fine. There's not too much on the line here, so don't overthink it."
The text: "I had a fun time last night—thanks again! You're awesome, but I didn't feel the romantic spark. I'm sure you'd agree."
The reason: "Saying something like this is friendly and gives them a chance to save their ego at the end when you assume they weren't into you either," says Tufvesson. "It's a good way to not hurt the other person's feelings."
The text: Don't send anything at all.
The reason: "If a first date goes horribly wrong, there's a problem there," warns Lewis. "Both parties should be patient, courteous, and give their full attention, no matter if the chemistry is or isn't there. No text should be sent at all if a date goes horribly awry. Why rehash a bad thing?"
Next up: 18 things I've learned after going on over 20 dates.