"I Found Strength I Didn't Know I Had": A Mom on Why Infertility Was a Gift

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When Amy Nadine speaks about her two children, her voice warms, and it's as if I can hear the broad smile that softens her face, even though we're talking over the phone. It's the unmistakable love of a mother—a warmth and a sense of gratitude that seems out of step with the story that follows. 

Nadine's path to motherhood has been anything but easy. When she and her husband, JP, decided to start a family together after getting married at 35 and 45, they couldn't have known the path it would take them on. After struggling to fall pregnant naturally, embarking on seven rounds of IUI (intrauterine insemination), six rounds of IVF (in vitro fertilization), and being shaken by the grief of back-to-back miscarriages, the pair realized that families are built in many ways, and theirs would (hopefully) be made through adoption—a decision that led them to their two sons, Jones, now 21 months old, and Iverson, 11 months.

"Now I know that everything happens exactly the way it's meant to," she says with a sense of calm that seems uncharacteristic for a mom with two kids under the age of two. "The humbling part of infertility is that so much is beyond your control. But you're capable of so much more than you think if you persevere. If you don't quit, you'll eventually become a mom." 

Here, she shares her incredible path to motherhood and explains how infertility became one of the greatest gifts, as told to Sophie Miura.