9 Reasons Dancing With Your S.O. Brings You Closer

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Get up and grab your partner around the waist—dancing is the perfect activity to strengthen your relationship. And according to experts, it has a whole host of wellness benefits, making it the perfect way to bond with loved ones at dance class. “There is something about doing the same thing at the same time with other people that really bonds us and expands our sense of self,” says Scott Wiltermuth, Ph.D., an organizational behavior professor at the University of Southern California, in an interview with Monitor on Psychology.

Below, read on for nine reasons to take up dancing:

  1. Dance is an excellent way to exercise. While the number of calories you burn while dancing depend on multiple factors such as your body weight and intensity of activity, one Livestrong article explains one hour of dancing may burn up to 400 calories. In an article for Time, the author references the words of researchers regarding one dance study, published in the Scandinavian Journal of Medicine & Science in Sports. “Dancing requires not only balance, strength, and endurance ability, but also cognitive ability: Adaptability and concentration to move according to the music and partner, artistry for graceful and fluid motion, and memory for choreography,” the researchers write. This particular study looked at how various forms of physical activity affected about 1,000 elderly Japanese women and their risk of becoming physically disabled, explains Time.
  2. Dance is good for wellbeing. In the same article, Time references a second paper, published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, and report that researchers learned aging adults who participated in mind-body exercises, such as dance, yoga, and tai-chi, typically had better cognitive function than people who didn't partake in this type of movement.
  3. Dancing together allows the two of you to physically reconnect. What do you notice when you see two people dancing together? As they dance, eyes meet, bodies are positioned close together, close enough so that you can practically feel one another breathing. 
  4. When you're dancing close together in harmony, your intimate connection grows as well. In an article for The Conversation, the author writes that even small, synchronized movements (such as tapping your finger in time with someone else), builds trust and closeness.
  5. Dancing builds resilience. “Dancing increases cognitive acuity at all ages. It integrates several brain functions at once — kinesthetic, rational, musical and emotional — further increasing your neural connectivity,” said Richard Powers, a social and historic dance instructor at Stanford University, in an interview with The New York Times. Meaning, combining rhythm and movement increases one's capacity to manage stress and flexibility to change, adds Powers.
  6. Going out to dance provides time for the two of you away from daily responsibilities. Plus, one study suggests that couples that have a shared social ritual tend to be more satisfied with their relationship.
  7. Dance builds trust. The both of you will work together as a team to learn and execute the choreography. "Dance partners learn how to work together, move together, listen to each other, and to move past missteps," writes one Fast Company contributor, referencing their personal experience with dance. "Our collaboration in teams and groups allows us to open up new ways of working with others, sometimes taking the lead and sometimes following," they add.
  8. You hone your communication skills. You have to pay attention to one another and communicate both verbally and non-verbally, which will deepen your appreciation for expressing your own needs, and working to meet your partner's needs. "Healthy relationships require leading and following or give and take on some level as well," reads a Fred Astaire blog post.
  9. Dancing is just plain fun. Especially for relationships that have existed for many years, this could be a way to break out of your comfort zone and explore a new activity together, or for newer couples, create a way to deepen your connection. 

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