It's no secret that texting leaves plenty of room for communicative error. Move that conversation over to a dating app, and that margin for potential error widens—especially when toggling between Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and back around the circuit. Fortunately, we can rely on etiquette experts like Beaumont Etiquette founder Myka Meier to provide some much-needed clarity.
Meier, who hosts dating and social media etiquette classes in NYC, recently spoke to Business Insider regarding the most common mistake dating app users make. Most notably, she warns against asking your match what they do for a living. "A lot of feedback that both men and women in our dating courses give us is that it's almost like if you were to ask, 'so how much money do you make?' 'So how well educated are you?'" explains Meier. What's more, she believes that this is somewhat of a dead-end question, effectively ending a potential relationship before it could even start.
Instead, she recommends asking open-ended questions that focus on your match's background or interests, such as What do you like to do on the weekends? or What are some of your favorite spots in your neighborhood? "It's about figuring out more about their personality at this stage, and that initial kind of chemistry—if you have that chemistry," she concludes. If your best efforts still result in one-worded responses, it's best to move on to your next match.
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