For as long as I can remember, I have entertained friends, family members, and acquaintances with the humorous details of my dating life. Whenever anyone asks me, “So are you dating anyone?,” I usually answer with a juicy story that involves a handsome firefighter and a wine-soaked adventure or a charming golf pro and a crazy pub crawl. However, I recently ran into an old colleague, and when she asked me the obligatory dating question, my answer shocked her: “I’m not dating anyone. I’m on a self-imposed dating cleanse until 2016.” I’ve had enough rejection, heartbreak, and good first dates that lead nowhere for now, so I’m taking a break. Choosing to refrain from dating is a great way of letting go—as a detox is about getting rid of unhealthy habits and emotions—and after your cleanse, you can start out fresh with hopefully a new attitude on finding The One. Wondering if you’re in need of a cleanse? Here are 21 signs it’s time to take a dating detox.
- You’ve just gotten out of a relationship and you need a break.
- You’re heartbroken and need time to heal.
- You’ve been in six mini relationships so far this year, and none of them were successful.
- You’ve become jaded and bitter about finding love.
- You can’t bear the thought of another awful Tinder date.
- You’re depressed.
- You’ve been sleeping with a partner you like for months, and you’ve realized he or she is never going to commit to you, and that you'll never be more than bed buddies.
- You're mean to the people you're dating.
- Your ex cheated on you, and you don’t feel like you can trust anyone.
- The same uninteresting people keep popping up on your dating apps, and you’re over it.
- Every time you go out, you run into an ex.
- You feel like there is no one left for you to date.
- You’re still hung up on your ex.
- You’re going through a low self-esteem phase.
- You don’t know what you’re looking for in a partner.
- You’re dealing with personal issues and not ready to commit to anyone.
- Your little sister just got engaged, and instead of being excited for her, you cried because she’s getting married before you.
- You’re obsessed with Internet-stalking your exes.
- You have an STD.
- You’ve been on a bunch of first and second dates that were fun, but only ended up with the person ghosting you.
- You've been on a bunch of first and second dates that were fun, but you ended up ghosting the people.
What to do when you’re on a dating detox? Read a good magazine, start working out, write a gratitude journal, or paint your nails.
Have you ever gone on a dating detox?