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The smartphone has fundamentally disrupted our dating and relationship landscape, leaving a new set of rules, norms, and myths in its wake. Case in point: the somewhat pervasive idea that dating apps are reserved for desperate people while more desirable, experienced daters can easily find a partner the old-fashioned way.
This was one of the many relationship myths debunked by Match's 2017 Singles in America survey, which found that 53% of singles have made a dating profile at some point in their lives. What's more, millennials are 57% likelier than any other generation to have made a dating app profile, and 30% likelier to have a first date that leads to a second date. The survey, conducted by Helen Fisher, Ph.D.; Justin Garcia, Ph.D.; and Research Now, quizzed over 5500 singles of all ages, ethnicities, incomes, and walks of life from across the country.
"Nowadays, online dating is the absolute norm," writes Glamour of the report. "Dating app users were four times more likely to date in 2016 … with 40 percent of actively dating singles getting their most recent first dates that way, rather than through mutual friends (only 24 percent)." In other words, don't let your fear of appearing desperate or too available keep you from trying online dating; if the stats are any indication, you're more of an outlier if you don't give Tinder a try.
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