Dating Advice If You're Over 50

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While you may associate dating as an activity for those who are younger, more and more people over 50 are on the dating scene. And while jumping into the dating pool at this stage may seem a bit daunting or challenging when you're over 50, it's important to recognize that dating in your golden years can actually be a great opportunity to meet someone truly special.

1. Embrace New Dating Methods

If you're over 50, the dating landscape has likely changed in many ways from when you dated back in your youth. For example, the concept of dating apps and sites may be extremely foreign to you and the idea of writing a profile, swiping on potential matches, and sending flirty messages back and forth may feel a bit strange. However, there are numerous ways for those in their fifties and beyond to connect with one another person, as there are many different types of dating apps, sites, cruises, and mixers specifically designed for those in this age range. And while you can certainly ask to be fixed up and keep your eyes open when you're out and about, you should look to these newer methods to help you meet interesting people.

2. Keep an Open Mind

When you're over 50, it's not surprising that those in your dating pool likely have more life experiences than when you were dating at 17. And this means that potential matches may have kids, be retired, have gone through a divorce (or two or three), or have any number of other occurrences and different life stories. But rather than looking at this as a negative, it's important to keep an open mind and find others whose life experiences enhance the people they are—just as your own life experiences have shaped you. When you're dating and over 50, you should remember to not judge a book by its cover, no matter how many pages have been written already. 

3. Look Forward and Not Back

With this in mind, when you're dating over 50, it's highly important that you're able to look toward the future. For instance, while you may have had a difficult divorce and ended up brokenhearted, this certainly doesn't mean you'll never find love again. Dating in your fifties can help open the door for brand new opportunities to bring love, romance, and passion back into your life. It's a great way to start fresh with someone new and leave whatever transpired in the past behind you. And while it may be hard or painful to move on, it's imperative that you look forward and recognize that love is still out there for you to find and cherish. 

4. Don't Settle

If you're over 50 and in the dating world, another important tip is to refuse to settle for someone or something less than you deserve. It's not uncommon to think that because you're getting up there in years that you don't get to fall in love or have the fairy tale romance you so desire. However, rather than being with someone because you're afraid of growing old alone or settling on a person who doesn't truly meet your needs, you should keep your head up and your eyes open in search of someone who appreciates you, respects you, and makes you happy. Growing older doesn't mean you're growing away from your chance of finding a happily ever after.  

5. Have Fun

Rather than looking at dating in your fifties as something that seems difficult, unnerving, and stressful, it's in your best interest to approach dating in a fun, positive, and upbeat way. Dating doesn't have to be hard, scary, or seem like an impossible feat. When you look at it as an interesting and exciting way to meet new people, the whole process of dating in your fifties can be far more manageable and enjoyable. Finding someone special isn't a race, no matter how old you are, so take your time and have fun while doing it.

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