38 Dating Resolutions We’re Making This Year

Updated 09/23/16
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In 2015, I went on more dates than I can remember. I met men through online dating apps, got set up with a date, and even left a note on a dashing gentleman’s car in a grocery store parking lot and ended up dating him. While this was fun, I also had five failed relationships, and I felt depressed by this fact on more than one cold and lonely night. I understand that the common denominator in these relationships is me, so in honor of the New Year, it’s time to do some soul searching. To end up in a loving and long-lasting relationship, I’ve got to change my ways. If you find yourself in the same situation, I invite you to make some dating goals for the New Year. To inspire you, here are 38 dating resolutions I'm trying to keep for the next 12 months. 

  1. Go on more adventurous and thrilling dates—think beyond just drinks!
  2. Don’t waste time hanging out with someone you’re not interested in just because you don’t want to be alone.
  3. Eliminate textationships. Stop texting guys you never see.
  4. Stop looking so hard. Everyone always says it will happen when you least expect it.
  5. Delete Tinder. And any other dating apps you’re totally over.
  6. Say no, if you’re not interested or attracted.
  7. Try to meet more people in person.
  8. Ask friends, family members, and colleagues if they know anyone they can set you up with. Then go on a blind date!
  9. Forget your type. Love the clean-shaven man? Go out with a bearded, man-bunned lumbersexual!
  10. Take detoxes when necessary.
  11. End that on-again, off-again relationship with the no-good-for-you guy.
  12. Do what feels right. If you feel like calling that cute girl the day after you meet her rather than waiting the requisite three days, do so.
  13. Make time for dating. Everyone is super busy, but when you meet someone who could potentially be a great match, make time for them.
  14. Call him to say hello. Instead of texting. At least once.
  15. Go to new places in different neighborhoods where you don’t normally hang out. You’ll be more likely to meet new and interesting people outside of your friend group.
  16. No sex on the first date. Or the second. Or the third.
  17. Don’t drink too much when you’re out with a guy you really like. The last thing you want is to say something you’ll regret too soon in the relationship.
  18. Speak up. If you want to define the relationship, tell your partner you want to take it to the next level. But not when you’re drunk!
  19. Have realistic expectations. Don’t get caught up in an elaborate fantasy where you imagine your picture perfect honeymoon on Santorini together before you’ve gone on the first date.
  20. Be proactive. You’re never going to meet anyone if you’re sitting at home in your pajamas keeping up with the Kardashians.
  21. Stop dating someone who is bad in bed. Hoping they will be able to please you sexually isn’t enough to make a relationship work.
  22. Leave 2015’s guys (and gals) in 2015. Don’t even think about drunk texting them when you’re lonely, bored, or depressed. Stop revisiting the past. Leave it in the past.
  23. If you find yourself putting the fun in dysfunctional every time you go out with your current fling, end it. Immediately.
  24. Figure out what it is you want once and for all. Then go seek it.
  25. Stop going over to his house at the drop of a hat. Be unavailable. Be mysterious.
  26. Don’t settle. You wouldn’t settle for a pair of jeans that you absolutely didn’t love, so don’t settle for a significant other. Imagine how you would feel to learn that she felt like she was settling to be with you. Horrible!
  27. Quit giving people so many chances. He cheated on you once—that means he’ll cheat on you again.
  28. Don’t wait for someone to change. If he says he can’t commit now, he probably won’t be able to commit in the future.
  29. Stop wasting hours overanalyzing text messages with your girlfriends. No matter how much you discuss it, you may never know what that winky face meant.
  30. Use protection. STDs and unwanted pregnancies are not fun.
  31. If he’s not contacting you, let him be. When someone wants to see you, they will reach out.
  32. Always dress cute. That way, if there's a hottie at the grocery store or coffee shop or library, you’ll feel confident enough to say hello.
  33. Be light and breezy on first dates. Smile a lot. Laugh. Be the person you would like to date.
  34. Date with intention. If you want to find a lifelong partner, stop doing the date-for-now hookup thing. Look for guys who you want to share your life with, rather than guys who you simply want to lock lips with.
  35. Make the first move. Life is too short not to!
  36. Stop apologizing for being who you are and wanting what you want. Be as crazy as you are. If you’re emotional, let those emotions shine.
  37. No more Instagram stalking. Or Facebook stalking, for that matter.
  38. Quit thinking there is something wrong with you because you’re still single. There’s nothing wrong with being single!

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What are your dating resolutions for the New Year? 

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