5 Helpful Tips for Single Parents When the Holidays Roll Around

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The holiday season is supposed to be a time when we're filled with cheer but if you're a single parent, the holidays can definitely be a bit challenging—especially if you weren't single this time last year. We know it's not easy, but it can still be plenty merry. Luckily, your friends and family will always be there when the going gets rough, but in the meantime, we rounded up some single parent holiday tips for breaking free of that anxiety and making the holidays fun again.

Read on for tips for single parents to help beat the holiday blues.

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Acknowledge Your Feelings

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Don't feel like celebrating? It's totally okay. In fact, you're not alone. For many, the hype of the holiday season is a cover for emotional pain. How would it feel if, instead of pretending, you acknowledge that the holidays are difficult for you? Instead of putting pressure on yourself to sing along to the holiday songs, try saying, "This stinks because it's not what I wanted, and I don't feel like celebrating." Releasing the pressure society puts on us to enjoy the holiday season can actually free us to discover those holiday traditions that hold meaning.

Let yourself feel your feelings without trying to cover them up, but after you feel like you've got the emotions out, try doing something that makes you happy. Whether it's slapping on your favorite sheet mask, tuning into a classic black-and-white film, or baking some cookies, making yourself smile will instantly perk you up. "During the holiday season, stressors can pile up and overwhelm even the strongest of single moms. But by being strategic about self-care, single moms can reduce the holiday stress," says Marika Lindholm, Ph.D.

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Do What You Enjoy

What are the traditions that you especially enjoy? See if you can come up with a list of three things you look forward to doing during the holiday season. Ask each of your children to do the same thing, and over a period of weeks, try to incorporate some of these activities into your weekends. Imagine what the holidays might feel like if you did only the things that are important to you and you just threw the others out the window.

This may sound silly, but when you're feeling super sad, try smiling. According to Better, smiling naturally encourages a chemical reaction in the brain, releasing hormones like dopamine and serotonin, which make you feel happier.

Who said you have to hang lights or decorate a tree? As long as you and your children focus on the aspects of the holiday that are most meaningful to you, you'll build a history of traditions and memories that are special.

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Try Something New

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What is one thing you've always wanted to do during the holidays, but you've never done? Maybe you've always wanted to sing in a choir or make stockings for the kids. Maybe there was a time when you dreamed of painting ceramic ornaments for the tree or participating in a live nativity. Letting yourself experience something you've always wanted to do can be a small yet powerful way of validating your own identity and celebrating your unique self during the holiday season.

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Give to Others

One of the very best ways to move beyond your own loneliness during the holidays is to give your time and resources to someone else in need. Spend a Saturday morning serving food at a local soup kitchen, or help Toys for Tots sort and deliver gifts. There are so many ways to volunteer with your kids, too, which is a wonderful way to teach them what it really means to give.

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Take Care of Yourself

One thing that we often overlook during the holidays is simply taking care of ourselves. When we're overtired, we're more susceptible to depression and anxiety. You can combat this before the holidays arrive by making the time to take care of your own needs.

Ask yourself what you need right now. Do you need to set more definitive boundaries with your children at bedtime? Do you need to get a babysitter and plan an occasional outing with some friends? Do you need to begin looking for a single parent support group in your area? Tending to these needs will equip you with energy and spirit as you move forward through this holiday season.

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