Since Amber Heard filed for divorce from Johnny Depp last week, the split has devolved into one of the uglier celebrity breakups in recent memory. As their divorce unfolds, it's highlighting a very real distinction between how the two genders deal with breakups.
A recent survey from the online legal service AVVO revealed that women are happier with their divorces than men. Of the 2000 men and women surveyed, 73 percent of women were happy with their decision to get divorced while only 61 percent of men shared a similar outlook. Three-quarters of the women surveyed said that they don’t rely on a relationship to make them happy, a sentiment echoed by only 58 percent of men.
"Men are more fearful of being on their own once they’ve been domesticated by their marriage, and even though men are more likely to think that marriage is an outdated institution on principle—they’re more likely to want to stay put even if things aren’t so great," said Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington. "Women, on the other hand, prize happiness over marriage, and are less fearful of independence generally."
The study also found that women are more likely to blame their spouses for the divorce, with 64 percent of women faulting their husbands for divorce while only 44 percent of men blame their wives.
Schwartz believes that this latest revelation has to do with deep-seated behavioral differences between men and women. "It might be that women believe that self-blame is not empowering, and men may feel as though it’s not masculine to blame their wives,” Schwartz said.
Though the survey’s findings are eye-opening, it’s important to remember that different relationships fall victim to different circumstances, something AVVO doesn’t quite investigate.
To learn more about the differences between men and women, pick up a copy of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and let us know if you agree with AVVO’s findings.