We talk about setting New Year’s resolutions, but what about goals for moms? When you’re a better version of yourself—healthy, happy, fulfilled—your little one reaps the benefits, too. Not to mention that it’s wise to start teaching your kids goal-setting at a young age—and one of the best ways for them to learn is to watch you achieve your own dreams.
We rounded up 30 attainable goals for moms while chatting with eight moms with kids of varying ages about what their goals are for this year. Use this list as inspiration, but remember that every mom is different, so tailor these goals to your family. Now, get your goals on.
Be gentle and patient: “The end of 2017 brought about an untimely divorce, and I’m finding myself in a new role as a single mom. I had to transition from a part-time SAHM to a full-time working mom and place my children in daycare while living paycheck to paycheck. With my life—and my kids’ lives—turned upside down, being gentle on us all is vital. I’m starting to let certain expectations go. I’m living slower and savoring the time I do have with my children by putting the to-do list aside when they are awake.” — Alex Evjen, stylist and blogger for AVE Styles
Get more sleep: Just because you’re a busy mom doesn’t mean that you don’t need your sleep. Aim to get at least seven hours of sleep every night (if humanly possible). And if it means one less Netflix show a night, so be it.
Make a budget: Knowing what you’re spending is the key to being able to save up for something fun (like that trip to Disney World, cough cough). Plan a few more game nights in versus dinners out, and you’ll be on your way to meeting your goals in no time.
Leave your work at the office: Be more present when you’re at home. This means once you leave your desk, your work should stay there. Your family will appreciate having more focused time with you.
A lot of people have the misconception that being a parent means sacrificing who you are and your identity.
Focus on self-care: “I believe it’s so important to take care of yourself in order to be the best mom you can to your kid. A lot of people have the misconception that being a parent means sacrificing who you are and your identity. Having kids doesn’t mean you have to give up what’s important for you as an individual. I think it’s so important to exercise, stay active, eat healthily, get pampered, go out on a date, and so on.” — Loreana von Plocki, creative director and founder of The Daily Bella
Meditate as a family: It’s never too early to teach your littles how to meditate. Ali Larter swears by the Stop, Breathe & Think for Kids app. And it’s free.
Find an outlet: Whether it’s yoga, mindfulness coloring, or reading, you need something to get your energy out. Carve out some time to engage in this activity a few times a week.
Designate the dinner table a “cell-free” zone: If your kids are older, this includes them, too. Have a bin or special spot where everyone puts their phone after silencing it. Meals are the perfect time to ask each other about your days and truly connect—and we don’t mean connecting on social media.
Spend more time with your partner: “With the New Year, we all want to set our sights high. But I’m all about being practical with the goals I set. My husband and I take a trip every January to celebrate our anniversary (a little late) but perfect timing after the holiday craziness. And every time we get back, I feel refreshed. The time away is so critical for our relationship, but I come back home with a motherly energy I can’t explain.” — Jamie Lynn Gernert, lifestyle and fashion blogger for Work Your Closet
Take more baths: And we mean those with tons of bubbles, a relaxing playlist, and maybe even a glass of wine. Because after all, a bath that’s less than 30 minutes doesn’t even really count now, does it?
Have a girls’ night: Don’t forget those gals who were there before all this craziness of life happened. Even if it’s something as simple as a Friday night pizza party once a month, it will be a great chance to catch up.
Remind yourself in the midst of making lunch and giving baths that you and your kids should have a little more fun.
Be more flexible: Part of being an organized mom means sticking to some schedules and rules. But it's also wise to be flexible so you don’t get flustered when something goes awry.
See your child for who they are: “My most important goal for this year and years to come is to really see our son for who he is and to nurture that spirit. I will always try to guide him, but I hope to keep the focus on helping him come more fully into himself rather than trying to shape him into an idea of who I’d like him to be. So this year and always I will focus on understanding who he is, what his particular needs are, and how I can best help him along his path.” — Sarah Yates Mora, creative director and editor of A House in the Hills
Teach your child to speak up: If something’s not right, you want your kid to call it like it is. Lead by example when it comes to this goal for moms.
Help those less fortunate: Instead of simply writing a check, plan a fundraiser or spend time at a soup kitchen. Only in helping others do we truly become selfless.
Drink more water: Water helps with pretty much everything—even anxiety. Make the effort to have everyone in your family consume more H20 (infused water can make it more exciting).
Find 30 minutes a day of “me” time: “As a new mom (my baby is 3 months old), I’m just starting to emerge from the newborn postpartum fog. I’m starting to feel my body again and reconnect with myself. When I start my day with meditation, I spend the rest of the day on a higher vibration, I’m more patient and calm, and I’m able to enjoy all the little moments. (Instead of wallowing in self-pity over being woken up at 3 a.m., I smell the top of my baby’s head and relish my incredible luck on having given birth to a beautiful, sweet, healthy baby.) If those minutes expand to an hour, I love to fill out my self-care checklist and make a smoothie. When I start my day like this, I’m able to care for my baby in the purest way.” — Laney Crowell, founder of The Moment
Challenge yourself: To a marathon, a healthier meal plan, or a new hobby. Getting out of your comfort zone will give you confidence you never knew you had.
Focus on experiences, not things: There are always more material goods we can indulge in, but they don’t necessarily make us feel better. If you’re going to splurge, do it on a family vacation or outing like to the ballet or museum.
Make health a priority: “My goal for this year is that I want to be more respectful of my health. I feel like since both of my little ones are in school now, I have more time to devote to staying healthy so I can be around as long as possible for them. So far it’s working out, and I feel like I can be a better mom when I feel more balanced overall.” — Jessica Doll, photographer and blogger for Hej Doll
Start (or finish) a degree: Always wanted to learn a new skill or get an advanced degree? Your children will be so proud to see mom going for it.
Inform yourself: Know what’s going on in the world and how it affects you. You may not like everything you hear, but you’re at a disadvantage if you’re not educating yourself.
Maintain balance: “With a newborn, a two-year-old, and a five-year-old, my focus will be to maintain a healthy balance this year. This balance will be between giving myself to my kids and carving out time for myself. The love and attention we tend to give on a daily basis can easily deplete us as women but remembering to make myself a priority as well will help me achieve my goal of balance in 2018.” — Ascia Sahar, blogger at I Am Ascia
Laugh often: Remind yourself in the midst of making lunch and giving baths that you and your kids should have a little more fun. Sing songs while cleaning up after playtime or watch a silly TV show together before bed.
My mom goal for 2018 is to schedule more help through babysitters, mother’s helpers, or friends since my family doesn’t live close by.
Cook dinner more frequently: Ordering in has never been easier, but delivery services can make it harder to be healthy. Make it a point to make dinner at home a few nights a week—and recruit your little ones as your sous-chefs.
Ask for help: “My mom goal for 2018 is to schedule more help through babysitters, mother’s helpers, or friends since my family doesn’t live close by. This will give me more restorative time and give my husband and me more quality time, even if it’s a quick trip for coffee or dessert together while our baby naps and my daughter plays with the sitter.” — Tammy Preston, blogger at A Loyal Love
Have designated indulgence days: Where you stay in your pajamas all day, make pancakes for dinner, and the most work you do is put on a face mask.
Stop having FOMO: Your life is different now, but you should embrace it. Is there really anything better than snuggling up for a pajama party with your child? We think not.
Say “I love you” more often: To a special someone, your parents, friends, and especially your child.