Rid Your Home of This One Thing to Improve Your Relationship


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Our environment can affect our mood, productivity, and even our relationships. How we keep our home can directly impact the quality of our interactions with others, especially intimate connections with our partner. Matt Parker, a real estate professional in Seattle and the author of Real Estate Smart and Real Estate Agent Talks, recently outlined this phenomenon in Mindbodygreen. Throughout his work, Parker has experienced a wide range of interior design choices, and he's realized the extent to which homes can "dictate relationships." From this insight, he's given recommendations for "how to craft a space that promotes love and togetherness."

One major aspect of the home that influences the quality of the relationship of those inhabiting it is the clutter. Parker acknowledges that humans, unlike any other animal, develop emotional attachments to material things. Oftentimes the strength of this attachment is dependent on how often we engage with the object—our phones, for example, being something most have a difficult time functioning without. However, Parker notes that if you let this material attachment "get the best of you and find yourself holding on to too much and living in clutter, it could be a huge damper on your relationship." Citing studies examining hoarder behavior, Parker says "cluttered environments cause anxiety, which could potentially influence your physical vitality." "It goes without saying that if you're anxious and overwhelmed, it's difficult to give care and attention to your partner."

If you're looking for a solution, Parker suggests reading (or listening to) Marie Kondo's Spark Joy with your partner to reprioritize just what actually brings you true happiness in life.

Interested in other ways your home is affecting your personal life? Check out the three things to rid your home of to feel less lazy.