Feeling attractive and desired in your relationship is at the bedrock of marital satisfaction, and according to Jill Weber, a relationship expert, clinical psychologist, and author of Building Self-Esteem, building that satisfaction starts with confidence in yourself.
"You don't have to be perfect to have solid relationships and love in your life," writes Weber in a recent article for Psychology Today. "In fact, it's being imperfect that puts people at ease. There's a kind of intimacy that takes hold, a sense that you can be open with this person because they are being open with you."
More specifically, Weber recommends not taking yourself or your life too seriously in order to appear more attractive and self-assured in your relationship. Accepting yourself for who you are can make life less burdensome, and relationships easier and more spontaneous. Generally speaking, she cautions against taking any criticism too seriously and instead letting the small stuff roll off your back.
"When faced with valid or invalid criticism, see if you can laugh at yourself or make a joke. In the end, others don’t define you no matter what they say," she writes. "Generally speaking, though, most of the time and with most people, the negative sentiments others may communicate or imply about you are not rigid insults to your character."
Head over to Psychology Today for more of Weber's relationship insights, and add your two cents in the comments below.