Life is truly a gift, but even when you know this deep down, sometimes it can really get the better of you. Just when you think you’ve got it all figured out and are steering a happy course, life takes control of the wheel and swerves you down a dead end. This tumultuous turn can jolt you from a positive place to a dark and often uncertain one. In times like these, we are left asking ourselves one question: How can I turn things around? The good news is you can, and you can do it today.
We understand how simple (and even a little naive) this might sound, but it’s true. Change is possible—that is, if you want it. The trick is to establish what those life adjustments are and divvy them into short- and long-term goals, then take a very systematic approach toward making them happen. Continually question yourself along the way too: What is my end goal? How do I want to feel? What do I want from life? To get you started, we listed some very straightforward steps you can take toward making positive changes in your life. Go on—you deserve the best.
Breaking up is hard to do, especially when it’s your best friend, but when a relationship turns toxic, there’s no other choice but to end it. You could continue on, but like anything in life, ignoring it isn’t the answer. Besides, negative friendships are draining, exhausting, and bad for your personal health. Why would you want to waste what little time you have in life for social outings with someone who makes you feel bad and drags you down? Can’t you just hear your parents’ voice? That friend of yours is a bad influence.
It’s hard to realize when you’re in it, but the weight of these friendships is a heavy burden to bear. It’s not until you cull them that you understand. You’ll feel so much lighter without the tension and hostility. Over time, this can really take its toll on all aspects of your life. It can even negatively impact your other relationships. Toxic people are controlling and manipulative, and let’s be honest: Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Now that you’ve made some small changes and feel your life moving in the right direction, it’s time to take it one step further and change the world around you. How? Take the simple 30-day Most Important Person Challenge. Before you click out and groan in annoyance, hear us out. This doesn’t require any physical effort, just a simple switch in perception. All you need to do is “treat every person you meet, without a single exception, as the most important person on earth” for 30 days. Okay, so maybe it isn’t as simple as it sounds, but challenging yourself to be a better, more caring, and kinder person will benefit not only others but you, as well. The key is to keep the benefits of this challenge front of mind, especially on the days when you just don’t feel like being nice.
This post was originally published on August 11, 2016.