How to Stop Being Jealous of Your Friends in Relationships

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Everyone gets jealous from time to time, and these feelings can become quite powerful when you're the only single one out of your group of friends. You may feel like the odd one out or the third wheel when you're spending time with your coupled friends, and it's not uncommon that their Facebook relationship statuses and happy posts on social media can leave you feeling especially envious that they have a special someone while you don't. But before you become totally resentful, angry, and annoyed that your friends are all in relationships while you're not, there are some things to keep in mind to help you curb your feelings of jealousy and get back to reality.

1. Enjoy Your Time Being Single 

When you're the only single one in your group of friends, you may feel as though you're missing out on the excitement because you can't partake in couples activities. But it's time to start seeing your current relationship status in a positive light rather than a negative one. Being single allows you the freedom to enjoy many fun, interesting, and exciting experiences on your own terms that your coupled friends aren't able to do. You can take this time to focus entirely on yourself, whether it's signing up for a yoga session, taking a sculpture class, or redecorating your apartment. You can go out on as many dates as you want, meet new people, and take this time to truly discover what you really want in a partner before you settle down with someone. If you look at your time as a single guy or gal as something that's a positive, you'll be positively less jealous of your friends who are in relationships. 

2. There's Nothing Wrong With You

If you're the only single person out of your entire group of friends, it's also not uncommon for this to take a toll on your self-esteem. You may start to think that something must be really wrong with you since you're the only one who doesn't have someone to call your own. This lack of confidence as well as feelings of self-doubt can easily turn you into a jealous, sad, and all-around negative person. But not being in a relationship isn't a reflection of you or your self-worth in any way! All it means is that you haven't met the right person for you yet. Rather than indicating that you're somehow unworthy of being in a relationship or that you'll never find someone, all it actually means is that at this point in your life you're single. It's not a premonition or a determination of what lies ahead for you for the rest of your life, so stop thinking that being alone right now means that you're going to be alone forever. That's simply not true

3. Things Aren't Always What They Seem

When it comes to relationships in general, it's important to remember that you never actually know what's going on between your friends and their partners. While they may present to you and to the entire world as though they're madly in love, that everything's perfect, and that their relationship has never been better, it's important to remember that you really don't know what's going on behind closed doors. Relationships start and end all of the time for a multitude of different reasons, and while you may think that your friends' relationships are all wonderful and going to to last forever, this isn't always the case.

Have you ever been surprised that your friend broke up with someone when it seemed as though everything was going well? Or have you ever had your friend vent to you about a partner's behavior and think how you'd never be in a relationship with someone who acted that way? While the grass may seem greener, your friends may be in relationships that you'd never want to be in yourself. By keeping your standards high and staying true to yourself, you're setting yourself up to find the right relationship and not just any relationship.

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