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Sometimes cuffing season doesn't go according to plan, whether you're dissecting a vague post–first date text message or juggling three different dating apps, modern-day dating can easily feel like more trouble than what it's worth. Which is why Business Insider recently enlisted the help of Venessa Marie Perry, PhD, MPH, founder, and chief relationship strategist of LoveWrite, a platform dedicated to changing the way we seek and experience love.
"In a perfect world, everyone would make their romantic intentions clear from the get-go," they write. "But if you've ever dated someone casually, you know that it can involve a lot of mind games." As far as Perry is concerned, four major signs indicate that, no matter what story you're telling yourself in your mind, the person is most likely not feeling it: If they leave you hanging over text or when making plans, if they always seem to have other things on their mind, if they're not physically affectionate with you, or if they keep bailing on you.
"Everyone is busy, but we make time for what's important. Not responding timely or at all is usually a sign of disinterest," Perry told the online publication. Same goes for in-person communication. "If a person is on their phone or not interested in the conversation, they are looking for a way to get out of the situation and to do something else," she added.
It's easy to make excuses for the object of your affection, but it would behoove you to keep your options open and remember that "people will make time for the things that they care about," she concludes. "The less time you waste on someone who leaves you hanging, the more time you'll have to spend with someone who never would."
Head over to Business Insider for more from Perry, and add your two cents in the comments below.