How to Handle an Insecure Partner (and Jealousy) in Relationships

It's normal for one (or both) partners to experience jealousy in relationships to a certain degree, but not when it reaches an obsessive or unhealthy level. (We mean, come on: It's only natural in some situations, like if your S.O. is still talking to their ex.) The thing is, there's a fine line between "normal" and territorial jealousy, and it's wise to keep things in check if things start to spiral out of control. If your partner is keeping tabs on you, frequently wants you to be alone rather than out with friends, and is constantly checking your devices, then maybe it's time to reconsider the relationship.

In fact, even though people sometimes use possessiveness to try to keep a partner to themselves (whether consciously or unconsciously), it usually ends up ruining the relationship. Studies have shown that jealousy and possessiveness can be detrimental to your romantic relationship and partners often become dissatisfied. "There are many subtle and not-so-subtle ways people attempt to control relationship partners as a means to calm their own emotions," says Lisa Firestone, a clinical psychologist and author of Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice. "Yet feeling connected to someone doesn't mean it is okay to act entitled or to exert power over them." If you've ever experienced this type of jealousy from your partner, keep reading to see how to overcome it (and emerge stronger than ever).