What to Do When Your Best Friend Lives Far, Far Away

When it comes to long-distance friendships, I’ve become quite the expert. Why? Well, as I was writing this piece, I realized that a whopping 98% of my friendships are of the cross-country variety. I attribute this pattern to my traveling spirit: I spent my formative summers at sleepaway camps, and I moved to a different city for college. Since most things worth having require practice in order to reach perfection, I’m grateful I could start early (at the tender age of 10, to be exact). Over the years, I have learned (and occasionally screwed up) the art of surviving long-distance friendships. 

To complicate things further (as I tend to do), I’ve managed to accrue more globally scattered companions as I’ve become busier. Don’t let this scare you away from investing in a long-distance friendship, however. They’re definitely worth the extra effort, and you’ll miss your friend too much not to try. If you’re skeptical, I don’t blame you, but the key is to allow your longing to be your teacher. It will give you the space to master time-management, to express loyalty in subtle ways, and to show that you’re there for them, even if it isn’t physically. So without further ado, here are a few tips that have helped me along the way.