Performance Reviews Are Like Dating—Here's How to Avoid Psyching Yourself Out

Going on a first date and having a performance review might seem completely unrelated, but they're not as arbitrary as they first appear. "It's easy to get worked up before a date, thinking that it has to be perfect or turn out a certain way. People put a lot of pressure on themselves, and performance reviews are the same," says Adele Rom, Head of People at MyDomaine's parent company, Clique Brands, and an HR professional with 20 years of experience. "If you walk into the meeting with an anxious mindset, it's going to impact your discussion."

Rom is quick to point out that a performance review isn't a one-sided meeting—it's a valuable chance to give and receive feedback. "It's not an interview; it's a conversation. The more introspection you've done, the more likely that conversation is going to have depth and meaning," she says. "It's as much about forward development as it is about reflecting on the past." If you're stressed about an upcoming review, preparation is key. Ahead, Rom shares what to do before, during, and after the meeting to set yourself up for success.