We share the nitty-gritty details of life with our significant others, but it's surprising how rarely couples discuss their futures. In a recent Fidelity Investment study, couples were asked a series of questions to rate how in tune they were. While 72% said they "communicate exceptionally," Fidelity's Michelle Tessier says the majority gave very different answers to basic financial questions when interviewed alone.
So how often do you chat with your S.O. about your goals and aspirations? In a recent article, Huffington Post charted the leading questions anyone in a serious relationship should broach. Turn off Netflix and pour a glass of wine. These are the top five questions every couple should ask before tying the knot.
- How much money in the bank would make you happy? With almost half of all married couples unable to identify their partner's salary, it's clear we need to talk about money. Find out what your partner's savings aspirations are and how they would use that money.
- Where do you see yourself 10 years from now? "It's surprising how rarely couples talk about long-term plans like retirement," says Tessier. Ask your partner where they believe they'll be in their career and living situation in 10 years' time. The answer could surprise you.
- What's your ultimate career goal? Starting a business or stepping into a managerial role could call on support from your spouse, so it's well worth discussing early.
- Do you want to live overseas? Making a big life decision when you're single is simple, but being in a relationship means taking your partner's dreams and goals into account too. Ask how they feel about traveling or where they'd like to live in the future.
- How do you feel about having children? Go beyond a yes/no answer and talk about creating a family. How many children do you want to have? Where do you want to raise them?
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This post was originally published on May 13, 2016, and has been updated.