Though we love them, the 90s and early 2000s sitcoms taught us to dread our 30th birthday (unless we had children and a spouse.) We're here to debunk that phenomenon because turning 30 offers an exciting opportunity to reflect on the past decade of your life. Your mothers and grandmothers may (unintentionally) put a lot of pressure on you to find a partner by now, but keep in mind that, when they were turning 30, the world and the dating scene were very different landscapes than they are today. In this day-and-age, women are thriving in the workforce, so we may not feel as pressured to get married and have children because, well, we have more options now.
So if you're in your 30s and feeling a bit blue about being single, don't stay down for too long because nothing is wrong with you. Here are four reasons why being single in your 30s can be fun and stress-free.
You Are Your Only Focus
When you're single, all you have to care about is yourself. There's something liberating about that because, as much as we've maybe loved being coupled up, at some point, it takes a ton of patience and compromise to keep the relationship train going. "Intimacy and partnership take up a lot of space in our heads. Even though much of this is happening unconsciously, there's simply a lesser capacity for individually focused thought," Susan Winter, a relationship expert, told TIME magazine.
She's right. When you're single, you don't have to consult anyone when you go out or pick up dinner. Everything you do is something you want to do. Guilt-free selfishness is really satisfying if we do say so ourselves.
You Have More Confidence
This may be up for debate, but you're probably more confident in who you are than you were in your 20s. After all, as we age, we have a much better sense of self than we did when we were younger and still figuring ourselves out. Now that you are confident and comfortable in your own skin, learning to enjoy your own company comes so much easier. In fact, the idea of staying home on a Saturday night with a glass of wine and a good book sounds amazing.
You Can Travel With Ease
Since you have only your own schedule to consider, planning your upcoming birthday trip or a long weekend "just because" will be a breeze. When you're single, you may feel more likely to take risks and plan adventures because you aren't necessarily trying to please anyone else. As we said, when you're single, everything you do is for you.
If you adore museums and want to spend the whole day wandering the Louvre in Paris, you can. If you love the beach and are looking to upgrade your tan on the beach for hours on end, you should. There's no one nagging you to rush to the next item on the agenda, so everything you do on your trip is something you are really excited to be doing.
You Have Utter Freedom
You get to choose what you watch on TV, eat whatever you want for dinner, drive whatever car you'd like, prioritize your beauty sleep...etc. The world is truly yours for the taking. You can sleep like a star and hog all the pillows and blankets. And, you can decorate your home however you'd like if that's what is important to you.
In other words, you are free to live by your own rules.