Whether you initiated the split or not, a breakup is hard. You invested so much of your time and life into your relationship, and now you must pick up the pieces. Maybe you are feeling extra sensitive around new people because memories of your ex keep circulating in your head. Or perhaps you are having trouble trusting your loved ones after being hurt.
Whatever you are feeling, someone else has surely felt the same. And some of those folks even wrote books on the topic, to help you get over your last relationship. Take a look at some of the titles below and take the first step to move on from your breakup.
Getting Past Your Breakup
This is an excellent breakup book that assists not only in dealing with the shock of a relationship ending but also how to move past the breakup to become a stronger, better person in spite or because of it. Topics such as dealing with breakup myths ("I need closure!") and boundaries (how do I not get into this situation ever again) are refreshing and well-suited to the tone and style.
Practical advice given for men and women alike fills this supportive relationship book in a warm, comforting way that many other breakup books lack. With the view that everyone will suffer from a bad breakup at some point in their lives, authors Howard Bronson and Mike Riley don't pull any punches when it comes to healing and moving on after relationship loss.
Although this book is focused on those trying to recover from a divorce, the information shared within is extremely useful to anyone struggling through a particularly difficult breakup. Not only does Rebuilding provide practical tips and suggestions for working through a breakup, it also explains in a fair amount of detail the normal physiological responses one's body goes through while processing a breakup. Interestingly, the book doesn't focus solely on the person who is grieving being broken up with, but covers information for the person breaking up the relationship as well.
A concise 200-page book full of truisms, proverbs, poems, and reminders assisting those who are grieving the loss of a loved one. How To Survive the Loss of a Love doesn't focus exclusively on breakups (it is meant for anyone struggling with relationship loss, whether it be through divorce, illness, death, breakup and so forth) but it does provide solace and support like few other relationship books double its size. With over two million copies in print, this book is an easy read to carry around with you wherever you go and is perfect to share with a grieving friend once you've finished with it.
For those familiar with Elizabeth Kubler-Ross' "On Death and Dying", this relationship book takes a similar stance, denoting the five stages of grief every human being endures. The differences between the two books are subtle, yet important: Kubler-Ross' book focuses on loss through death, whereas Anderson discusses how the five steps are managed during a relationship breakup. Part science and part real-life exploration, "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" is a gentle yet informative read that every breakup sufferer should get their hands on.
The most modern and laid-back of the top breakup books in this list, "It's Called a Breakup Because Its Broken" was written by the now-famous Sex and the City writer, Greg Behrendt, and his wife Amiira after his previous book, "He's Just Not That Into You" hit the bestsellers list. Although there is little in this book that can't be found elsewhere, Behrendt's fresh style, sometimes crass responses to Dear Abby-like situations and honest reminders that we'll all find love again can be exactly what younger audiences need in order to move past the breakup grieving phase.