Dating can feel a bit overwhelming at times, but the good news is that there are ways to turn it into a rewarding experience. So, whether you’re new to the dating scene or are more of a seasoned dater, it’s important to live by (and date by) these seven essential rules.
Put Yourself Out There
One key rule when it comes to dating is to create more opportunities to meet more potential people. And that means breaking out of your comfort zone and making yourself open and available to meet new guys and gals and have new experiences. So, whether you sign up for a different dating app or ask to be fixed up, you’re taking strides toward making a real effort to meet others.
Keep an Open Mind
Along these lines, another essential dating rule is to keep an open mind when it comes to meeting new people. Remember, just because someone has different interests than you and/or isn’t your typical “type” doesn’t mean that you should automatically write him or her off. After all, while it’s imperative that you don’t settle, it’s equally imperative that you give someone else a chance—just as you’d hope others would do for you in return.
An additional rule when it comes to dating is to keep yourself out of harm’s way. And in light of many of today’s dating apps and sites where you’re potentially meeting a stranger, it’s never been more important to remain vigilant and put your safety and well-being first. With this in mind, some top safety tips include letting a trusted friend and confidant know where you are, meeting your date in a public place, and staying clearheaded so that you can make good choices from start to finish.
Set Your Own Pace
When you’re dating someone new, it’s also important that you move your connection forward at a rate with which you’re totally comfortable. In other words, you shouldn’t feel pressured or obligated to move faster than you’d like to and/or engage in any activity that you’re not ready for, and that goes for both in and out of the bedroom. Remember, if you want to have a shot at turning a dating relationship into a serious commitment, you get to call the shots and go at your own pace.
Realize That Dating Takes Time
And speaking of setting your own pace, it’s important that you take some of the stress off of yourself and recognize that finding that perfect person won’t necessarily happen overnight. After all, if you put pressure on yourself to just settle down already, you’re more likely to put yourself in a position where you have to settle for less. So rather than rushing the process and selecting a partner who doesn’t meet all of your needs and criteria, it’s in your best interest to put in the time it takes to date more people and up your chances of finding the one.
Keep a Positive Attitude
Another key dating rule has to do with your overall outlook and attitude about dating itself. If you feel as though you’re never going to meet someone of quality and that every date you go on is going to be a disaster, these negative expectations will likely become self-fulfilling prophecies. After all, your pessimistic energy will be palpable to the people around you while simultaneously affecting your behavior in general. However, if you opt to keep an optimistic mindset, your date will feed off of your positive energy and the entire experience will be far more pleasant on all counts.
It’s also important that you look at dating as an opportunity to have some fun. For instance, the next time you go out on a date, why not meet at a bar you’ve wanted to check out, a favorite coffee shop or even at an arcade or bowling alley? Not only are you putting yourself in a better position to have a good time right off the bat, but even if you don’t hit it off with this person, you’ll still get something out of the date that you enjoyed.
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