Deciding to move in with your partner is an important decision and big step in any serious relationship. There's a lot of questions you need to answer and figure out ahead of time, such as are you going to find a new place together? Or is one of you going to be the one who moves? Before you start packing up boxes and memorizing a new zip code, it's important to follow these six moving in together tips that'll help your relationship thrive and make taking the next step a serious success.
Read on for six tips for moving in together successfully.
Talk Openly About Money
Before you and your partner officially move in together, it's important that you've already discussed how the financials would work. For example, are you splitting the rent 50/50 between the two of you? Who's going to pay for groceries, internet, cable, home repairs, or even Hulu? Being forthright and honest about money and deciding before you share an address about how you're going to share the expenses is a key step toward having a successful living situation with your partner.
Make Sure You Both Want To Take This Step
If you're considering moving in with your partner, it's imperative that you're both ready and excited to take this kind of relationship step together. But if you're feeling pressured by your partner to move in together or you're going to move in because the lease on your apartment is ending and suddenly you need a place to live, these kinds of motivators are only going to cause problems down the road. Moving in together should be a mutual decision that you both come to as a team, and being in love rather than being pressured into doing it is key.
Discuss Where You See Your Relationship Going
Make sure to discuss your potential future with your partner before you move in together. For example, if you believe that moving in with your partner is the next step before getting engaged at some point down the road, you're not going to be happy if your partner thinks that moving in together is actually the final step in the progression of your serious relationship. And while there are certainly no relationship guarantees, being open with your partner about the path that you hope to go on together is necessary when you're deciding to live together.
Put an Emphasis on Communication
If you're open from the start with your partner and aren't worried that they'll move out if you have a disagreement, you'll have a much better time living together.
In order to make moving in together a success, it's key that you and your partner make open and honest communication a priority. Every couple has arguments from time to time, and you can't be hesitant to vocalize your thoughts or opinions for fear of ruining your time living together. "Your best and bravest path is to be honest and direct when you are struggling," says Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD. If you're open from the start with your partner and aren't worried that they'll move out if you have a disagreement, you'll have a much better time living together.
If you and your S.O. struggle with communication, considering trying couple's therapy to set you up for success before you move in together.
Keep an Open Mind
Living with a partner can be challenging, especially when you may only be used to seeing this person for shorter periods of time. Now all of a sudden you're spending day in and day out together and sharing your living space, so it's never been more important for you to keep an open mind. While you typically wouldn't dare have your partner see how long you go without doing any laundry or that you rarely clean your sink or shower, your shared apartments opens you both up to seeing a new side of each other. Since everyone has quirks or even less-than-ideal habits, it's important that you try your best to view your partner's unique behavior as endearing rather than annoying.
Moving can be stressful. Packing and unpacking boxes, attempting to figure out whose dinnerware and stemware to keep, and trying to decide what goes where can take its toll. However, if you do your best to make the overall experience fun and lighthearted, you'll truly be able to enjoy more of the moving itself. Once you're living together, you should take full advantage of all of the perks that this new living situation provides couples, such as cooking together, having more opportunities to be close and intimate, and never having to worry about one of you needing to leave to drive home at the end of the night.