Some of us dabble in astrology to see how it might affect us in our careers, our design style, and—as is the focus of today's post—our love lives. In fact, many astrology believers find that some relationships are actually written in the stars, which is the case for twin flame relationships. And don't be surprised if you don't know what a twin flame relationship is because it's talked about far less than finding your soulmate. In fact, some of us may have been hoping our soulmate will come to us, when really what we've been searching for is our twin flame all along (but more on that later).
"Astrology tells the story about karma and past lives—why we are attracted to specific people, our personal past life patterns, personality, and behavior are being acted out in the here and now," says Kelley Rosano, an astrological coach. She even goes on to call the twin flame relationship the "greatest love story ever told." But how does this specific partner (and relationship) differ from the others we've heard about? Keep reading to learn everything you've ever wanted to know about a twin flame relationship, including how it differs from soulmates and karmic mates.
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World-renowned Kelley Rosano is a teacher, coach, astrologer, and author. She empowers her students through her insightful teaching and inspired coaching on how to build a successful business.
What is a Twin Flame Relationship?
In a twin flame relationship, it's believed that when you were created, your soul was split into two identical parts with identical soul blueprints—one that went to you and one that was given to your "mirror." The creator didn't want you to be alone, so he created your twin flame, Rosano explains. The Tai Chi symbol, better known as Yin and Yang, is used to represent this type of partnership: Two souls that are intertwined through eternity.
Twin flames trigger each other and bring aspects that are hidden in the shadow (those parts of ourselves we do not want to own or heal) into the open.
Spiritual coach Tanya Carroll Richardson says a twin flame relationship is made up of two people who balance each other out. For example, if one is an optimist, the other is a pessimist. "Twin flames trigger each other and bring aspects that are hidden in the shadow (those parts of ourselves we do not want to own or heal) into the open," she explains.
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Tanya Carroll Richardson is a self-improvement/spiritual author and professional intuitive. Tanya has a healthy intuitive practice, giving private readings to amazing clients all over the world.
Twin Flame Versus Karmic Relationships
Spiritually, a karmic relationship is meant to help you grow, but it is never meant to last—it's often playing out a bad experience from a past life. It's thought that the relationship will continue until one of you pays the debt off from that previous life, and although you are seriously drawn to that person, it doesn't mean you should go for it. As for signs you may be in this type of relationship, it can often make you feel like you need to go to therapy together and can be emotionally and physically draining, too. Rosano says that a karmic relationship and twin flame relationship are sometimes confused because both exhibit an intense attraction and emotional charge (almost like magnets). However, where a twin flame relationship can be healing and giving, a karmic relationship is often selfish.
Twin Flame Relationships Versus Soulmates
Rosano describes soulmates as "passionate friends of old." Like your twin flame, when you meet your soulmate, it moves quickly since you feel like you know them already (the belief is that you've known them for lifetimes). However, the astrological expert explains that soulmates still have romance, but it's more of "a slow burn" when it comes to chemistry in comparison to a twin flame. Twin flames are more likely to turn out to be destructive compared to a soulmate relationship, in Rosano's opinion. "Soulmates make us feel happier, stronger and richer," she explains.
It's All About Balance
No matter which type of relationship you're in, it's about the ability to balance each other out that leads to success. Rosano explains that she thinks a twin flame relationship can be the strongest, but "often twin flames don't have enough self-mastery to maintain a healthy relationship." That means they move on to "the next best alternative"—their soulmate. At the end of the day, it doesn't really matter which type of partnership is believed to be strongest if yours brings out the best in you.