Who has time for romance and intimacy amidst dirty diapers, school homework, and children's activities? But a fulfilling sex life is one of the important ways parents can rejuvenate enough to make it through the daily grind. It's also part of the glue that will keep your marriage strong and happy.
To help keep your sex life alive and well, try one or all of these suggestions!
Most parents who have young children literally collapse into bed at the end of the night. There's very little energy left for any activity between the sheets—but setting your alarm clock for a half hour before your usually wake-up can jump start your sex life.
Feel free to slip into a sexy teddy and make sure you lock the bedroom door! You might also want to quickly brush your teeth before jumping into each other's arms (just saying!)
It can be hard to get in the mood for romance after a long day of work, child care, and household chores. I'm a huge fan of parents having a regular date night. It gives you a chance to talk without any interruptions, unwind and relax when there's no one around to be responsible for, and connect with each other on a different level than in everyday life.
Most importantly, date night brings you back to the old days—not so long ago—when you'd primp to look your best for your partner. A little anticipation before an evening out can add to the fire when you're finally home together again.
It's more than a 1970's song by the Starland Vocal Band. (Bet you didn't have that name on the tip of your tongue!) As cheesy as it sounds, afternoon lovemaking can be a delightful pick-me-up for a tired pair of parents. After all, you often have more energy at 2 p.m. than at the end of the day.
Whether your kids are at a yearbook meeting, gymnastics class, or asleep for their daily nap, Saturday afternoon can be your chance to set those sky rockets into flight.
Plan an Overnight Trip Somewhere
Sneaking around behind the kids' backs can only take you so far. A wonderful boost to a parent's sex life can be a weekend or even overnight trip to a hotel where you don't have to worry about making too much noise. Hopefully you have grandparents nearby who can babysit or neighbors willing to make a child care swap.
You don't even have to travel a long distance or spend a ton of money. Check out the hotel deals within an hour or two drive of your home. You may find a sale that includes a breakfast buffet the next morning. Now that's luxury!
Take a Day Off Work
Your days off are precious, if you're even lucky enough to get paid time off work. You're probably hoarding them to use if your kid gets sick or to visit family over the holidays.
Just this once, think about taking a day off—along with your significant other—and spending the morning in bed together. It may cost you when it comes to vacation time, but you'll save a fortune in marriage therapy!
Go on an Adventure
For once, don't plan a thing... only the hotel room, for however long you can stay for. Go somewhere you've never been before. It doesn't have to be a trip on an air plane, just another place other than your hometown. Get out of your element to help you get back into each other!
Once you get there, do whatever you feel like. Instead of researching restaurants, just walk by and see how it makes you feel. Eat a delicious meal, enjoy exciting sites, and get lost together. A sense of adventure will excite you and help things out once you get back to the hotel room.