Love and sex can get even better after you’re married. In fact, given the trust and emotions invested in that person from your courtship, you may find your idea of love expand and become all the more sensual. With a little effort, you can continue to woo your spouse, which will keep the spark in your marriage alive well into your later years. Here are some suggestions on how to maintain the romance in your relationship.
Take Action to Make a Wish Come True
Do something that shows you care and you listen to him or her. For instance, if your wife wants the kitchen painted a particular color, but she never seems to get around to doing it, you could volunteer. The only dangers in this tip would be if you got the details of the task wrong—but even then, you can volunteer to fix it!
Paint the Town Red
Buy or pick a special outfit that you’d like to see your husband or wife wear for a night out on the town. Place a bucket of champagne and the outfit in your bedroom with a note explaining that he or she should put this on and meet you by the car at a certain time for a date. Then, plan a fabulous night fit for someone wearing those clothes.
Put Your Love Into Words
You may have written love notes or drafted texts that pour your heart out, but to one-up yourself, consider making your writing more public. For example, if you keep a blog, dedicate a post to your spouse. You might even want to write an entry specifically about what makes him or her so special.
Give the Gift of Song
If you can sing, serenade your spouse from your lawn or balcony. If you can’t sing, carry a boom box or MP3 player with speakers as if you were in the movie Say Anything. Make sure to pick a romantic melody or, better yet, a song that means something to the two of you. Be kind to your neighbors and be sure to consider the nuisance to your neighbors (who may not be as forgiving in the face of your unconditional love).
When you are physically close, you won't need to use your words to explain your love. Random kisses or other displays of affection will be all the action needed to reinforce how you feel for one another. Your desire does a lot to keep up the passion between you both, and it can add to the security of your relationship.
Show Your Love in Pictures
Make a special scrapbook just for your husband or wife. Perhaps the photos are erotic in nature or they could be silly—essentially, this should be a private photo collection meant only for the eyes of you and your partner. Sharing secrets of this nature and creating memories together enhances your bond.
Text Your Better Half
Send sweet text messages to your beloved every few hours. You can keep them romantic ("You are my heart and soul") or make them more suggestive ("I can't wait to rip off all your clothes tonight"). It might be fun to start off with romance and make them get progressively more sensual. The idea is to let your husband or wife know that he or she is at the forefront of your mind and that you're still attracted to him or her.
Surprise Them With a Romantic Getaway
Surprise your spouse with a long weekend somewhere special. You could, for example, take a drive upstate or down the coast, pick a little hotel or bed and breakfast, and make love in between checking out the town. The important thing is that your husband or wife does not have to do a thing. You should do all the planning and all the packing. Your romantic adventure should be a surprise.
Stay in Bed
Spend an entire day in bed with one another. Have food and drink readily available bedside (think champagne and strawberries, whipped cream and chocolate), lounge in your birthday suit or a bathrobe. Kiss, hug, cuddle, have sex, sleep. Do it all from the comfort of your love nest and you will wake up the next morning more alive than ever.
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