How to Tell if You (Or Your Partner) Is "Micro-Cheating"

Updated 02/12/18

There's a new dating term in town: micro-cheating. (As if we didn't already have enough to worry about.) But what is it, exactly? "Micro-cheating is a series of seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship," dating expert Melanie Schilling told HuffPost Australia. "You might be engaging in micro-cheating if you secretly connect with another guy/girl on social media; if you share private jokes; if you downplay the seriousness of your relationship to another guy/girl; or if you enter their name under a code in your phone."

As Brides reports, it's difficult to label something as micro-cheating because what constitutes cheating in one relationship might not in another. For example, flirting heavily when you're at a party might be crossing a line for some people; for others, no big deal. We already don't agree on what cheating is—that's for a couple to decide on their own terms.

With that said, you'll know in your gut when behavior is disrespectful or just a bit off. Saving someone by a different name in your phone is likely something your partner would consider wrong since it's deliberately hiding something from them. But by labeling it as micro-cheating, it could make it sound like it's no big deal, when most people would consider it a serious breach of trust. It's excusing behavior that both people in the relationship know is really not okay. Ultimately, if you're honest and open with your S.O., you'll have a good sense of where you stand. Not every relationship is the same, but you should know when you've crossed a line.

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