My mom has always said that being a mother is the hardest job that she’s ever had. It never gets easier no matter what stage of life your children may be in—raising kids is hard. What’s even more difficult than being a full-time mother? Being a full-time working mother. Not only do you constantly have to put out fires and manage moving parts at both work and home, but you also have to deal with judgment from all angles. Co-workers, teachers, your children’s friends’ parents: All of these people can often say hurtful things to a working mom. This is such a delicate subject that the Internet is filled with lists of things you should and should not say to working mothers. One recent list, written by Jennifer Barbin and published on Working Mother, caught are eye. What makes this list different from the rest is Barbin’s witty and heartfelt mental responses to the comments. Here are the first six things you should never say to a working mom:
- “I saw your kid on the class trip today. She was crying. I think she missed you.” How is that supposed to make a working mom feel? She missed her kid and the field trip!
- “I could never let someone else raise my kids.” It takes a village, and even the busiest of working moms will make time for her kids.
- “I don’t know how you do it. I’d feel too guilty.” Working moms do feel guilty, so no need to rub it in, right?
- “You trust your babysitter, right?” If she’s leaving her kids with the babysitter, then she must trust her.
- “Good for you for putting your career first!” Perhaps working is putting her family first. Before you say something stupid, stop and think.
- “I’d give anything to get away from my kids for an entire day.” All you have to do is hire a babysitter or get a job and you can.
For the other seven things you shouldn’t say to a working mom, visit Working Mother.
Learn more about how to balance work and motherhood with Barbin’s book, Guilt Be Gone! Become a Proud Working Mom in 12 Easy Steps.
Are you a working mom? What’s the worst thing someone has said to you?