4 Reasons You Might Regret Getting Divorced Down the Line

Updated 04/12/19
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It's no secret that choosing to file for divorce is a lofty decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. There are a myriad of factors to consider, including your children, your finances, and, of course, your happiness. It's also important not just think about how you may feel in the present moment, but also how you might feel years or even decades down the line. While divorce can be the best option for some couples, others may regret the choice in the future.

According to a 2016 study conducted by Seddans, a law firm in the U.K., 22 percent of the more than 800 participants regretted getting a divorce.  Additionally, a paper published in a journal of student research found that 40 percent of divorced participants believed, in hindsight, that divorce was the wrong choice for their marriages. The Daily Mail also reports that a U.K. survey found that as much as 54 percent of participants experienced seconds thoughts after getting a divorce and that 42 percent considered giving the relationship another try.

These statistics on divorce regret show that the aftermath of ending a relationship can be a complicated and emotional one. Although some divorces are necessary, others might not be. If you're considering filing for a divorce, keep reading to discover a few common reasons why people feel regret after divorce. They might convince you to give your relationship another try.

Your Finances Change

The financial impact of divorce can be devastating. The reality of how much it costs to just get a divorce attorney can be a shock and once the ball is rolling it is hard to turn back. Even after the divorce is final and the legal fees have been paid, there's still the matter of figuring out how to support two households with the amount of money that was once used to support one. This might require you to find a new job in order to support yourself.

Your Children are Affected

As resilient as children may be, divorce can affect them in a variety of ways, whether they are kids or young adults themselves. For younger kids, divorce often means losing their childhood home, moving away from neighborhood friends, and even enrolling in a new school. They'll also have to adjust to splitting their time between their parents. If you're a stay-at-home parent, going back to work in order to support yourself will also be a big change for them. Essentially, divorce can also take an emotional toll on kids both young and fully grown.

 

Your Next Relationship Might Not Be Any Better

Some say it takes three years to recover from a divorce, but others jump into new relationships right away. Although there's no right or wrong way to date or commit to a new person after a divorce, it's important to heal before you can move on to a new long-term relationship.

It may be common for loneliness and financial strain to motivate some to begin looking for a new partner shortly after their divorce is final, but if you don’t take the time to emotionally recover and address your role in the demise of your last marriage, those same issues could trickle into your next relationship. If that's the case, you could end up finding yourself just as unhappy in your next marriage as you were in your last.

Your Viewpoint May Change with Time

Distance really can make the heart grow fonder. The longer you are away from that spouse who once drove you crazy, the more attractive they may become, especially if you start comparing them to what’s available once you start dating again.

The pain of regret after divorce can be long-lasting, especially when you consider the life-long impact divorce has on your children, your finances, and your emotions. While divorce may be your only option in certain situations, some relationships can be reconciled before the paperwork is filed. At the end of the day, you are the only person who can make the decision for yourself, and while there are many factors at play, you know what's best for you and your family.

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