When someone you're dating or someone you're talking to via an online dating site mentions that they're "420 friendly," what do you say?
As a dating expert originally from the West Coast of Canada, this question comes up often—here, so many dating profiles will mention "420 friendly" in some way or another. So let's jump in as to why this appears in some parts of the world and not others, what it means, and why it might be important to you.
What Does "420 Friendly" Mean in a Dating Profile?
420 refers to marijuana smoking, so "420 friendly" means that the person posting the profile either smokes pot or is open to dating someone that uses marijuana.
Why Do People Use "420 Friendly"?
Originally it was used as code amongst marijuana smokers. Today, it's prevalent with pretty much anyone who uses marijuana, although more so in North America. There are even 420 dating sites catering to people with this interest.
Isn't Marijuana Use Illegal?
It depends on where you live, thus why people use this code to share their interest and/or openness to others using marijuana.
Why Would Someone Want To Share That They're "420 Friendly"?
I'm not going to get into the ethics or legal aspects of marijuana use, as there are others with infinitely more expertise in the field than I.
What I will say however is this: marijuana use, like smoking, drinking, religion, children, and politics, are all deal-breaking topics for many singles. Whether you live in an area where marijuana is legal or not, it's eventually a discussion many of us will have at some point in—again, depending on where you live, sometimes it's a conversation that will occur more than others.
For instance, when I travel to Europe, for instance, the question of marijuana use and dating rarely comes up. Yet when I'm in my hometown of Vancouver, Canada, it's rare to see a dating profile where "420 friendly" isn't mentioned in some way.
For some, it's a non-issue. I've talked to many who don't see smoking marijuana as a problem or who would rather date a person who already approves of their choice. In my neck of the woods, "420" commonly appears in dating site profiles, and I've had quite a few folks tell me they're uninterested in dating unless their potential partner is a pot smoker, pot activist, or at the very least, tolerant of its occasional use.